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Alejandro Aguirre M.D.
I can not say enough wonderful things about Dr. Aguirre. It is sad Annie died. She died 7 days after surgery. If that is the case she left Dr. Aguirre's care before she was instructed to do so. As far as not being given any pain meds, you are instructed to go to the pharmacy and pick them up. Did they not do that? I actually am still here in Ensenada and am 6 days post-op and am doing wonderfully. I have had wonderful care. When going into this surgery or any surgery, we must all realize death is something that may occur. You must be at peace with yourself, your life and your creator before you do this. This surgery or any surgery is not one to be taken lightly. I am truely sorry for Annie's passing but I hate to see someone blame her death on Dr. Aguirre and his staff. It is sad to ruin someone's carreer and reputation they have worked so hard at. I am very glad I did this surgery. I am extremely pleased with my care. It couldn't have been a better experience. Again I feel for Annie and her family but please do not go into this surgery lightly. Do your research. In doing your research you will see that Dr. Aguirre is a wonderful and competent surgeon. — Neisha

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  • Family & Friends - Nothing is more important than quality family and friend time.
  • Travel - I'll go anywhere, anytime! Love an adventure!
  • Theater - I stay busy both directing and acting in community theatre
  • Dancing - I feel so free and alive when dancing! I can't wait to go dancing again!
  • Singing - I started out as a music major........too much pressure! Opera style voice.
  • Cooking & Baking - I'll cook it if you'll clean up!
  • Teachers - I love my students! I teach 6th -12th grade speech and drama. I love it!

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  • Comment by Eggface on 6/24/07 11:32 am
    Yeah Neisha! So glad my surgery day sister is having such a great recovery.You are in great hands Dr. A is the best. ~Michelle
  • Comment by monikabell123 on 6/22/07 6:29 pm
    Hi Neisha, Well its done now and you are on the road to recovery and frankly a better life...you will have loads of benefits from this although some days it won't seem that way. Write a list of why you did it and read this occassionally if the road gets rough. It gets smooth again very quickly so don't sweat the small stuff and start saving your pennies for your new clothes and fun times to follow. all the best Kay
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The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars....
                                                                                                                           -Jack Kerouac
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Life is Good
on October 24, 2007 8:58 am
I am so glad I had this surgery!  I am becoming the old me again.  I am truly loving life.  Everyone thought I did before but they had no idea how much I was hurting on the inside.  It feels so good to be in control of me!   I'm at 197 now.  I haven't been out of the 200's in years.  I know I still have a ways to go but I do see a light at the end of the tunnel.  I'm still really tired but I've slowed things down and I'm trying to just take life easy. 
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So tired!
on October 10, 2007 1:22 pm
I am just exhausted!  I've been directing a musical and I am worn out.  It is a success.  We will complete the run this weekend and I am so ready to have it over with.  I've enjoyed it but mentally and physically my body is screaming at me!!!  It is all I can do to make myself go to work right now.  I miss not enjoying my job and right now I am too tired to.  I've been so busy I really haven't had time to exercise either.  I am looking forward to watching some t.v., getting my house back in order, cooking, exercising, playing with my son and enjoying my time with my husband too.  I'm so ready to have a life again.  I'm also excited to see how much the weight loss will pick up when I start exercising.  I am really getting lots of comments from people now and some people are almost not recognizing me!  It's fun.  I'm looking good in clothes again!!!  I'm almost out of clothes that fit or at least look good !  I've got to get to the consignment store so I can sell some of my fat clothes so I can be stylin again!
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I'm a real loser!!!!
on August 20, 2007 10:07 am
I read back over last months post and I just thought the weight loss was slowing down!  I have lost almost 20 more lbs!  I am down 46 lbs. now.  My goal was to lose 40 by the time I had to start back to work.  I beat that goal!  I now have a new goal.  I want to have lost 75 by Christmas!  It will be work but I know I can do it!  I have never had a day of regretting this or the blues.  Usually by the afternoon I am pretty tired though!  I started back to work last week and that has really wiped me out!  I am keeping up with the vitamins and I know that helps.  My main challenge will be getting the exercise in.  I am just going to have to wake up earlier in the morning.  It feels so wonderful to get the attention and compliments.  I love looking in the mirror and feeling proud of myself.  It is not an easy road but with the assistance of the surgery it will happen!
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Life is Good!
on July 22, 2007 8:55 am
The weight loss has really slowed down.  I have fought to get 3 lbs off the past two weeks!  I didn't expect it to slow down this soon.  I am exercising and all that good stuff, I think my body is just going WTH is going on here!  I'm sure I will get on the scales one day and really dropped some poundage.  The day before we left for Ensenada my husband took pictures of me.  Since I am now a month out, we took pictures again last night!  It is amazing the difference 29 lbs. has made!  The pictures were very motivational.  I have lost 29 pounds dozens of times but this time it is different.  I am not suffering with hunger and cravings and I know I'm not fighting a losing battle.  I will continue to lose and beat this demon!  I am down 2 pant sizes so I know I am dropping the inches too.   I have been so fortunate to not have any complications whatsoever.  My husband was very against the surgery but he is now very impressed and optimistic.
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Weight loss tracker
on July 12, 2007 5:15 am
1 week post op 12 lbs
2 weeks              18 lbs
3 weeks               26 lbs
4 weeks               29 lbs
8 weeks               44 lbs
16 weeks              62 lbs
18 weeks              67 lbs!!!!!  No longer in the 200's!!
6 1/2 months         85 lbs --weight loss has slowed down
                           but losing lots of inches
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My Story

My name is Neisha.  I am 36 years old.  I have always struggled with my weight.  At this time I really don't feel like being too personal.  I will say, I had a Vertical Gastric Banding done about 10 years ago and never really lost like I should have and now I have gained all of the weight I did lose back.  Needless to say, there have been many losses and gains in this time.  When surgery doesn't even work WOW!  That really makes you feel like a failure!  My mom had bypass done about 22 years ago and she still looks great.  I am scheduled for surgery on the 20th of June with Dr. Aguirre, in Ensenada.  My husband doesn't understand my need for this and very few friends do.  But I am doing this.

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I do fear death when thinking about the surgery, any mature responsible adult should.  We all know that is a possibility with this
surgery, any surgery.................anytime in life.   Although I did consider laproscopic over open surgery, I must do my surgery open.  But after research I would have opted for open surgery anyway.  I know that may sound crazy but when doing lap., they are using little tools to grab your body parts, particularly the intestines and sometimes if they squeeze these "tongs" too much it can cause small tears and then leaks occur.  This happened to a friend of mine who had the surgery done @ a Bariatric Center in Oklahoma.  A top facility.  3 weeks after the surgery he woke up in excruciating pain and went to the emergency room.  They had to completely do the surgery over and he was then in the hospital for 10 days.  This is what people die from.  Yes, other things cause  this too, I'm just saying if he wouldn't have taken immediate action then he may not still be hear.  He regrets having the surgery and is still having difficulty eating.  But he is 3 1/2 months out of surgery and has lost 97 lbs and looks very healthy and feels fine now.  I do think this surgery is harder on men.  Eating is a masculine thing and when you eat only tiny portions it makes you look
like a wuss.  For women if you eat a lot your a slob and a pig.  Eating small amounts makes you more "lady like".

Now............................knowing all of this with my friend I have still decided to have the surgery.  My husband really had hesitations after this.  But my husband doesn't know that gloom that clouds my life.  No one sees that except me.  .  I am a very happy, positive person but on the inside this vicious monster of depression lurks.  NOONE knows this or sees this so they can not understand my need for this surgery.  I am a very active, vivacious person who is full of life...........................and now I REALLy will be.

My mom told me, "You either have to accept the idea that you are going to have this surgery or you are going to have to accept that you will always be this size or larger.  No matter how hard you try, this will always be an unending battle.  You have fought it for
37 years and only won and couple of times."  The victories were short and VERY unhealthy.  If I stayed this size I knew that high blood pressure and diabetes would bite me in the ass sooner or later.  The weight is very much genetic.  My mom did this surgery 22 years ago.  No I am not grossly large and I do carry my weight well but I still have 100 to 120 pounds that I can never seem to shed.  It is affecting my back and knees.  After my RNY,  back surgery still might have to happen.  If it does though, I know recovery will definately be a lot easier on a thin body!
I do take considering death very serious.  I have even secretly wrote a good-bye lettter to my husband and sons.  That was
tough but I also felt I was safe and it was just a precaution I was taking.  I have made sure I am at peace with my life and at peace with my Lord.  I do not want to die but I also do not want to live like this everyday.  It is a VERY selfish surgery and it should be.  If we would have been more selfish in the past we might not be in this situation.  But it is also a very giving surgery because there is so much life you can give back.  I have a wonderful life but this is one thing that always made me feel like a failure and I could never get ahold of it.  I feel so much guilt because my husband and kids are so great and I know I can give them so much more.  I was married to a real jerk before and I gave him so much more, so why can't I do that now?  Because of my weight. 
Very few people, if any understood this.  They did not see me as a "fat" person who is lazy and miserable..........but I am starting to feel that and that strangers see it  too.  This last month or two I have become very self concious and I am typically a very confident, uninhibited person.  It is like I can read  their minds and hear them calling me a fat slob and see me thru their eyes as disgusting.  I know that sounds wacko but I never understood shyness or insecurity before and this has really given me some insight.

 


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