Jupiter6
Thorofare, NJ
John Meilahn, M.D., F.A.C.S.
RNY (07/16/07)
Member Since: 11/16/03
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Post Date: 5/12/08 12:46 pm
Last Edit: 5/12/08 12:53 pm
I try to be kind, but I am going to vent a moment here-- no one in particular in mind, just a general statement.
I see so many people go into this like gangbusters and lose steam-- and it annoys the crap out of me. And still more who "were never told" what to do-- and never bothered to find out, either.
I think of my RNY like a marriage--- and not just of organs and connective tissue. Love it or hate it, it's with me now for life-- and my attitude is that I can either invest everything I have in it in hopes of high rewards, or neglect it and hope it works out.
A LOT of people have their focus on the wedding (surgery day) or the whirlwind romantic honeymoon (the first year of easy loss.) The truth is, you could probably eat nothing but goddamn Cap'n Crunch cereal and Pixy Sticks and lose weight in the first 6 months--- just like the honeymoon in the Bahamas'd be full of lusty fun under the worst of conditions....the challenge is how to maintain a working, passionate and healthful MARRIAGE--- which lasts the rest of your life.
So for me, on a daily basis, on the 9-5, I am faithful, compliant and hardworking. I honor my vows by tallying nutrition, balancing foods, getting moderate exercise, and not shoving crap in my face. On occasion, I remind myself that I am human and lusty by scheduling in a little "afternoon delight" in the form of a piece of chocolate, or a half-slice of cake--- but I am not having an affair, I am actually keeping myself from having affairs--by treating my RNY spouse as part of a full relationship, and remembering my love for food in a limited and honorable way---not having a "quickie" in some seedy bar bathroom stall (Cheetos, a handful of fries, candy from the machine), but a planned weekend at that quaint motor lodge with the hot tub and a view of the canyon. I ask, "Can we afford it?" and check the numbers and say, "Hell, it's only 1100 calories, go for it." Then my RNY and I do some wonderful, small, memorable things with food.
People ask me, "Don't you ever just eat something? Like a snack or a handful of M&Ms?" To me, that'd be like making out with the janitor. I have a commitment to my RNY (and by proxy my self.). I am not gonna dishonor that by playing slap and tickle with the hired help in a dirty bathroom.
So I have my planned forays--- Saturday night was my first in two months-- and it cost me literaly 1100 calories for the day. And when the weekend was over, my RNY and I came back to the daily business of running my body's household. Vacation is just that-- vacation. And when the honeymoon period ends, I am gonna have to look my RNY spouse in the face and get on with things.
Forget the wedding-- weddings are always lovely. And screw the honeymoon-- who doesn't have a wonderful honeymoon? The $1,000,000 question here is, "How are you going to honor your RNY marriage-- in sickness and in health, as long as you both shall live?"
"To be a revolutionary is to love your life enough to change it, to choose struggle instead of exile-- and to risk everything with only the glimmering hope of a world to win." -Andrew Kopkind, 1968
Consult (1/31/07): 368.0 lbs. --62.1 BMI
Surgery Day (7/16/07): 300.8 lbs. --50.1 BMI
Current Weight (5/11/08): 194.4 lbs.--32.2 BMI 
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Thanks for a great rant....