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 when i had my surgery i did not   have any support group ,i did not have to do what all of you had to toi had my family and one women in the church who stood behind be i had one friend i thrught that was my friend call me six time a day to talk me out of i having the surgeryt telling me the danger of it but i already new and i belive in my heart that it was god will and and i told her this and i told her if for some reason that i did not come out of it then it was god will i had a lot of people that did not like it because they did not belive in losing weight this way , people could not understand thst it was for health reason so for 15 month i was all lone no one to talk to or to share any thing with i could not go to those that had it done for help as they where not doing the right thing and that is no good to me where i live their was no support group nothing and i could not say what i was going though with those that did not have the surgery because they would not understand and still dont so i kept it all in  i would go up to the hospital to see a nurse on the floor that i was on to let her know how i was doing she told me to keep in touch and i did that i kept going back and three month ago she told me about the obestyhelp and told me what to do i also fround out at that time they would be starting up a support group and it nice to see the people that are going to have the surgery  i go once a month but i find it hard to say anthing because of haveing no one iin fact at the last meeting i gave out my number and email to some and still not heard from anyone i am not giving up hpoe may be in time my home town will come around so i join obesityhelp i did not know what to expect so i thank you all for your post and support and your friend ship and i thank that nurse for telling me about obesityhelp i went to see her last week  to tell her about my profile she was not there so i left a note but ialso fround out she will beno longer the nurse on 4 centrel her new job will be the head of the gastric bypass support group getting it all togther  when i read all of your profile it realy lifted me up to see all the support for each other and to see all of your health improving and it tell my heart that i did the right thing and know that iam not alone and to know that i can get good ideal from all of you  i wanted to share this with all of you ,you all have alot of good imput and i like the way that you have away with word in what you want to be and know  and that is why i have ask you to be my friends  thank you  Ila

As you all know, I am tone deaf and hard of hearing in both ears.  I was born with it and was in a specal  class.  I went from school to school it and that was hard for me as a kid I had to learn to talk as i could not talk .most of my life i have been made fun of and called name all beacuse of my hearing loss.     I also went from doctor to doctor to find out what was wrong.  My Mom & Dad found a Doctor in Syracuse, NY and that is how we found out about my hearing loss.  I did finish high school with my sister Twila.  That was my wish and it was accomplished with allot of hard work on my part due to my hearing loss.  Things don't always come out the way I want them to I get myself in a jam some times.  It 's also hard for me to understand some things and I have to ask what it means.  I have a wonderful husband and two girls and one step son.  I have been married for 26 years, going on 27 years in April.  Six years ago my marriage almost ended but the good Lord brought us back together.  We both go to church two times a week.  

I have 3 wonderful grandchildren that are my life.  I have 5 sisters and 3 brothers.  I have a brother that had bypass surgery and he did good for awhile.  I watch him get sick because he does not follow his diet.  At that time, I said I would never have bypass surgery.  That was 15 years ago.  Then my sister had the same surgery and she did good.  That was 9 years ago.  When I was putting the weight back on, I said to myself, everyone'd not the same afterwards.  It changed my way of thinking.  I also have a sister that had the lap band procedure done and she also did good for awhile.  Some of her weight came back on.  At this time, I was at the end and I knew that I needed to do something.  Therefore, I had the RNY procedure in September of 2005.  I weighed in at 268 lbs.  I wanted to look like my sister did but I learned that I have to be me.  I know that it was God's will to have the surgery.  For a year I prayed about it and the day came to have it done.  It was the best day of my life.  My husband and my best friend ,her name is Betty and she is our Spuritual mom,  were more scared than I was.  My surgery was 5 hours.  I became scared when I kept geting sick and I had a fever.  My heart was racing and Dr. Oh called the floor every hour to see how I was.  I don't know what caused the fever or my heart to race.  I know the pain medications made me sick.  I kept talking to God for his healing and I made a promise to God, that afterwards I would pick up the kids and bring them to church.  I am still doing that.  I have learned that it takes work on my part daily.  Just like my hearing, one day at a time is not easy.  No, I am a fighter and can say now, that my brother is doing good.  He is back on his diet and my sister is working on geting the weignt off by going to the gym. as of to day 12/28/06 my sister has lost 60lb 

Today I am down to 164 lbs.  My goal was  to get  to get the weight off so that i could breath better and walk with out being of breath and for my back not to give out alot than my goal was to get into a size14 be fore a friend got married and the best goal was to go danceing    with my husband before i had surgery on my knee and of couse after the wedding witch was in august and i went dance with my husband for the frist time in 8 year and i did get into a size 14dress for the wedding now   today my goal is to get down150 lbs.and to perfence having to have knees replacement so early in my life  I was never a big person growing up.  It was after I had my girls and my hysterectomy that I put on the weight.  I have learned never to say never.  Even today, it gets hard for me because of my hearing and not being able to work out like I want to so I gress walking is better than northing and    not having the support I need from my surgery.  I thank God for the board post and my family.