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March 8, 2008
Since Jamie gave me an idea, I think I will do my best to give a weekly "session" on things that I think about regarding this change of lifestyle. Today, I want to start off by talking about comparing ourselves. It is EASY to do. Especially since we have been doing it to ourselves most of our life. It started off as kids when we compared and competed for our parents/grandparents Even at our support meetings we sometimes compare our situation to another's and ask ourselves "why am I not having that success. I must be doing something wrong..." There are dangers in this. Terrible mental, social, emotional and SPIRITUAL damage to this very topic. I recently gave a message at "my" church. Actually it was a series of messages on the topic of comparing. If you are not a Christian, bear with me and still give me the benefit of the doubt that these things are practical and useful for us all. One of the first things that come from comparing ourselves to others is PRIDE. Pride is a dangerous thing. According to the Bible, a proud look is one of the 7 sins God hates. They actually are called ABOMINATIONS. Abominations means to "double hate" if you would. when we compare ourselves to others, it is very likely that our first reaction is pride. Maybe it is that you are "better looking" by today's standards. Or maybe you were able to overcome your difficulties and lost weight faster than others. The honest truth is, whether it effects us Positively or negatively, pride is still dangerous. Pride causes us to forget what we ARE or WERE and puts us in a place of "superiority complex"...the very thing that the "skinnies" did to us before our change. The second thing that I see that is comes from comparing is the dangerous development of insecurities. This is the opposite side of the swinging pendulum. Like me, you may not get "proud" and "condescending" or arrogant, but instead, you allow feelings of insecurities to take root in us. "What if I can't make it?" "can I be as successful as the next person?" "I wish I could look like so and so..." These thoughts hurt us. We end up hurting ourselves more than others with their sharp comments. Many times, we joke about or degrade ourselves first so they can't beat us to the punch (no...not the tasty forbidden beverage) This causes us to turn somewhere for comfort, and sadly, our comfort is loaded with calories. It makes sense though, I mean, eating builds endorphines. Sex addiction, fitness addiction, and food addictions come from people over compensating their feelings....insecuri The third thing that comes from comparing....well... GIMME A BREAK FOLKS...I just got done talking about me...the class clown thing......  seriously though, the next thing that comes from comparing is jealousy. Interestingly enough, I believe Jealousy is the direct result of pride and insecurities (low self esteem). Jealousy is wanting what...lets say....what....bridg The last thing I will talk about is loss of relationships. I could go on and on and on...I mean I am a baptist preacher...... when we compare ourselves to others, we become unsatisfied with what we have or even WHO we have. It causes a person to "gaze at the grass on the other side of the fence". someone once said "The grass is always greener over the septic tank." How many marriages end up in divorce because one or both of the couple look at what they DON'T have and not at what they do. Today, how many times did we find ourselves comparing? Not all comparing is bad. Don't get me wrong. Sometimes we have to compare. Personally, I caught myself comparing at wal-mart. For instance, ground turkey has less fat and calories than ground beef  Seriously though, Tomorrow, let's make it a point to count how many times we catch ourselves comparing us to them......(this should be fun to do seeing tomorrow is Sunday and with church and all hehehe) then report back here and lets compare...... Just kidding!! But keep a mental note of how often we compare ourselves with ourselves. I like how the Bible says it.... 2 Corinthians 10:12 ¶ For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise. 2 Comment(s)
Comment by Timd1011 on Mar 14, 2008 at 05:23am
I am in the process of losing the 10% for the bypass.
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