I Said a Prayer of
Healing for you --
body, mind and soul
-- That God would
bring you comfort to
restore and make you
whole. I prayed
you'd be surrounded
by His awesome love
and healing,
Dispelling all
anxiety or pain you
might be feeling.
Finally, I prayed
you'd be uplifted by
His grace, and feel
yourself enfolded in
the peace of His
embrace. Wishing you
all the best on your
journey for a
healthy happy new
you. Skinny Wishes
~
And I don't plan on testing the waters anytime again.
I ate the top of a dunkin donuts coffee cake muffin. It is pure sugar.
It was delicious.
But the effects I felt after negated the deliciousness of the muffin top. I did not have a horror story dumping experience like I've read about. It started about about 10 minutes after I ate the muffin top. I started feeling really hyper aware and awake (we were on the drive back home from family - a 4.5 hour drive), then "blah", then nauseous, then the nausea got worse. And worse. I felt like I was going to puke at any second, and may have felt better if I did. But I didn't. The really bad nausea lasted about a half hour, the whole 'experience', before I started feeling normal again lasted about an hour.
As I was eating the muffin top, I knew I was not doing what I was supposed to be doing. I also know people go months, years(?) without testing the waters to see if they dump because they are super careful. I have been that way, but I saw an opportunity - of course, not necessarily the best time as we were in a car on the interstate, but I digress. I wanted to try it. I did and my pouch, or the RNY, won. I "got" what I was asking for.
So, I am not likely to try that, or something sugary again anytime soon. I know that even though you may dump on one thing, you may not dump again, and if you don't dump once, you may the next time. Gonna stick to plan, and maybe in another couple months I will push the envelope again, I don't know. But for now, I am happy for the surgery, "happy" I dump and still on track. Although I have been eating a lot of carbs lately. Stupid winter.
I don't know what it is, but since I've been back to work fullish time (still only doing about 7 hours, 7.5) I go poop every day while I am at work. I don't eat anything different, protein first, veggies, carbs (in that order) and drink my 64+ oz of water everyday. It is still kind of painful to poop - been that way since a few weeks post op when constipation set in for me.
I have a couple theories. I am more active now that I am working, constantly getting up and walking up and down halls, as opposed to sitting in my chair most of the day. I also drink more water when I am work - 2 32 oz nalgene bottle's worth, PLUS my protein shake made with milk PLUS usually about 16 oz's before work plus whatever drink at night. So I am sure that is helping a lot too.
But I really noticed this week, now that I am back to work, I am going pretty much everyday now instead of every 3 days. Now only if I could remember to drink as much on the weekends and remember my calcium at meals, I will be golden!
Was better than the first, but still will take some getting used to.I went to lunch with a couple friends today to Longhorn Steakhouse.I haven’t tried actual steak yet, so I thought it best to stick to chicken – something I know agrees with me.I sit down at the table and the helpful waiter comes over and asks if I want something to drink, and I politely decline.He asks if I am sure and if I just want water or something…. Um, no, I am pretty sure I didn’t want anything.So I tell me lunchmates I am not able to drink fluids 30 mins before and after a meal, so it’s not really worth getting anything (although from here on out I may just order a water just so I don’t have to deal with constantly saying no!).
Well, it comes time to order, and I chose a chicken dish with a salsa on top.He asks if I want any sides and I say no - it said it came with rice, but you need to apparently ask for it, so he asks me again if I am sure and looks at me like I have 4 heads for not ordering a side oe 2, because he says, it comes with 2 sides you know!I just should have ordered rice and veggies, but also know in restaurants, especially chain ones, they are prolly drizzled in some sauce or butter or something.Still looking at me funny, I ignored him and he finally left.
It was a bit interesting to see how the ‘fill your plate’ mentality is and when you deviate from that, people act a bit wonky.My friend had fries and I didn’t even give them a second thought, which is a good sign I suppose.The chicken was good, but I think was more beaks and elbows as it wasn’t horribly lean.It may have been a little fattier than I would have liked but it was still good and pure protein in my bellah.As I got the check, the waiter asked me if I had enough to eat, as I asked for a doggy bag.Let it go, man!It’s okay!I don’t need to stuff my face or eat to make you happy!
I suppose since I am 14 days away from surgery I should write 'my story'. Quite honestly it's not that exciting. I'm a married, almost 30, relatively simple woman who is morbidly obese. I don't have children yet... And the obesity is holding my husband and I back from acheiving that. I could go on about how long I have been overweight, the yo yo diets and all that, but I won't - because, quite honestly, it isn't pertinant. And who cares? I don't really give a flying frog how other poelpe got MO just as I am sure you don't really care how I did.
I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and Fibromyalgia so I am in pain most of the day although I am on 8 different medications to help. I have a fake knee and had that replaced 3 years ago this October. Strangely enough, I am relatively 'healthy" for being MO - cholesterol, triglycerides, blood pressure all within normal range. No diabetes or sleep apnea. Other than a lot of extra joint pain and the things I cannot see from MO, I am okay. Of course the mental side of being MO is completely different.
Some people liked their fat self and had as much fun as possible no matter their size. Me, not so much, issues with increased arthritis pain notwithstanding. I hate being fat. I hate that I cannot keep up. I hate that my arthritis combined with my weight make working out hard and running absolutely impossible. I despise how I look, how I feel.
So, I'm making a change.
This was just a random post on the RNY message board by Shari aka Jupiter6, and it really does speak volumes to me. How to sever the ties between destructive eating, in my case, sweets.
First comes detox. Cold turkey. You ball your fists and cry like a baby and feel deprived and you hurt. Yes you hurt. You hurt like hell and you LET yourself hurt, instead of wrestling it, or mollifying it with a bagful of Frito-Lay therapy. Then, once you are clean, ironically, you can rebuild our relationship with the stuff. You get to have it again-- but you re-frame the relationship. Since you no longer "need" it, because you're not ameliortaing your inner crap with it, you can actually *taste* it. But detox comes first. Period. No smoking dope in the rehab bathroom-- or in this case, no Ding Dongs for breakfast. Sweat it out. Struggle. Feel like hell. Cry, take a bath, soothe yourself with candles, lotion, self talk, Oprah magazine, DVDs, whatever you have to do. But struggle, and feel the struggle. We're not USED to feeling without medicating, without burying our feelings in a carb pile. Struggle--because to be honest, you learn a lot in that struggle, and it ends sooner than you'd think. And THEN, well, one hopes that's where healthy living can start.
I needed to cut and detox. I needed to learn that it's okay to hurt because something better will be in it's place. And on and every day after August 27th, there will be something better. A better me.