Dec 07, 2012
Earlier this week I posted about the emotional rollercoaster I've been on since having the surgery. What do you do when all of your excuses to succeed has been eliminated? It's nothing left accept DO! Many of you have decided you wanted the surgery but has allowed someone around you to discourage you based on their ignorance...that was almost me back in 2009. My mom was so afraid because she didn't understand how the surgery would affect me, her reaction to my decision created tension between us, so much so she wouldn't go to Mexico with me. Her response to me was, "I don't understand why you can't see yourself beautiful." My response to her was, "how about you carry an extra 100lbs of flour around and see how beautiful you feel."
The truth of the matter is simply this. If it's the surgery, weight watchers, change of behavior, diet or exercise; when you make up YOUR mind to do whatever YOUR heart's desire, you will be successful. Of course there is challenges in everything we do, but when it's your decision, nobody else can hinder it. My advice would be to surround yourself with the support you need to keep you encouraged and empowered. In most cases, that will not be from your close family members unless someone has undergone the surgery already.
Let me let you in on a little secret. If you are considering having this surgery solely based on how you want to "look" this solution is not for you. The rapid changes are very difficult to deal with and when your family tells you they never "saw" you as you "see" yourself it could potentially rock your world. The truth is, people who love us really don't care about what we "look" like. In fact, sort of like seeing yourself everyday, they don't really see you when your changing either, unless your changes are coming from within. What I mean by this is, my family didnt see my weight loss until I was close to 100lbs gone. I remember specifically my youngest daughter going away for the summer coming back home and freaking out because she said I "looked" so skinny...that was a whole year after the surgery...it was like to her I lost it overnight but she didnt see it until she left and came back home.
I'm saying all this to say, let's work on the inside before, during and after your surgery. This process is a long and very trying one. In some cases, its been 20 years that you have been carrying this weight. One would like to suggest that 7-24 months when all the physical weight is almost gone, you have arrived. The true transformation doesn't occur until you can un-live all the years it took you to not only put the weight on but carry it from situation to situation...how are you going to handle things when your pouch won't let you overeat? When too much sugar will have you on your knees begging God not to let you die? Well the correct support group will have you grabbing for your nearest friend who knows EXACTLY what you are feeling when a box of chocolate or pint of ice cream will no longer do...
I have decided that once and for all, I LOVE ME and because I love me, I make better decisions for myself. Gone is the day when I consider others for things before I consider myself. Gone is the day when I believe that someone else is more qualified than I am to do the thing I know I've been called to do. Gone is the day of self infliction of pain, low self-esteem, negative self-image, lack of self-confidence but improved and increased self-love. Now that I love me, I love everyone different this includes my mom and my children. It is true, you cannot adequate love anyone until you love yourself...that too has been a very interesting and trying journey that I will be on forever...I invite you to get on this journey with me. When your mind is made up, the sky isn't even the limit...ask NASA!!!
Just this week...my made up mind has opened doors I couldn't have even imagined!!!! Try it...please share with me any struggles you have been going thru...we have to approach our decisions with our whole heart..its not just about the physical weight as much as it is the other stuff that caused the manifestation in our physical...no matter what method you choose, just make up your mind and watch what happens!!!