Regarding the Dani Mathers incident

Jul 21, 2016

First, it’s terrible what she did to that poor woman. There’s no question it was bullying and even if the lady she took photos of was not overweight it still would have been wrong. You just don’t do that we are supposed to feel safe in the locker room it’s a no phones out in the open zone. Members are lucky at my gym we have a Men, Woman and a family locker room. I have up to this point only used the family one when I have taken my small children to swim, this is what those rooms are for. They not for individuals without children or for couples to make out in or worse which does happen from time to time.  I have fought the urge to be ashamed of my loose skin and showing it in public. I have sagging skin under my arms, a little around my belly and of course, my inner thighs I’ve seen worse and I’ve seen some better than. The point is when in the men’s locker room, I’m not checking the other guys out I’m in there to change my clothes, taking a shower and that’s it. I would not be taking photos of others in any state of undress or otherwise in the locker room.  I guess I’m feeling a bit shocked that this would happen. I felt safe in the men’s locker room. I know I’m gullible too trusting. I had to be that way or never would have walked in the door in the first place.  I get it that  people who have never had a weight problem might be a little uncomfortable about being around overweight folks. I don’t agree with it, but I understand it because I’ve dealt with it most of my life. They see us alien and I'm sure there is  a myriad, of different reasons why are that way. Prejudice towards obese individuals has been around for awhile it's just something we deal.We all of us have to work be tolerant and excepting of each other. We are all human if were all carbon copies things would be quite boring. I’m not going to stop going to the gym and I’m not going to use a private changing room although I understand if some folks are compelled to do that. It’s personal choice and with any choice there a risk of adverse consequences. I only wanted to be treated with the same respect give others. I exist yes, I'm not perfect I have flaws hiding is not going to help, it's only going to reinforce the bad behaviors we see some committing like this gal Dani. It's up to us to take a stand and educate people the world around us is for all of us, not just those chosen few. I wonder what  the legal consequences of what she has done are? Some of our lawyer members might be able to shed some light on that topic. I’ve heard she’s already shut down her snapchat and twitter accounts. She’s also been fired from her place of work. I’m not what she does for a living other than her big claim to fame of being a playmate of the year or something. I believe she should be punished, but I also believe in 2^nd chances too. I hope she and any others like her learn from this. I know I just went all unicorns and rainbows. I try to put a positive spin on everything the glass is half full, there are only 4 lights ( STNG reference) lol. I blame wonders of modern medicine and anti-depressants for my somewhat unrealistic positive outlook on things. 

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