rickpete
Almost 15 Months Out
Sep 08, 2009
Today I feel better physically and emotionally than I have since I was 25 years old . My weight has continued to decline slowly since my one year WLS anniversary a few months ago. I have dropped 10 lbs over the last 2-1/2 months without trying to do so. My diet and calorie intake have remained relatively constant for the past 7 or 8 months and I have been exercising a lot , mostly walking and bike riding. It would be fair to say that I am exercising more and more as a way of dealing with stress rather than eating myself into oblivion. This has been a particularly stressful year with the protracted illness and passing of my mother-in-law, the death of my dear old dog, increased conflict at work, and constant worry about friends who are sick or troubled. Yet it is the stress I have imposed on myself that I am struggling to manage. I have come to accept that I am a different sort of guy than most and, as such, I have more emotional needs than some would deem seemly in a man. If I am to thrive as a thinner person, I know that I have to find a way for more of those needs to be met or I will risk falling again into despair and my old eating habits. The internal stress comes from recognizing the need for change for the sake of my own emotional well-being while also seeing that making those substantive changes in my life will likely diminish the lives of those I hold dear. At present I am looking at interim solutions and incremental changes in my day to day life that I hope will one day give way to more dramatic changes. I am convinced that somewhere along the way a more comfortable balance will be reached. For now I am actually healthy and feeling hopeful about my future.
In the past month I have gone to two WLS seminars to answer questions from prospective WLS candidates about my experiences. Those have been very positive experiences, albeit with a couple of unexpected moments......my surgeon wanted to show people my laproscopic RNY scars and one woman wanted a closer look......like from less than a foot away. After that particular seminar, another woman wanted to feel the loose skin around my middle. I didn't scuttle away in embarassment in either case and for a guy who couldn't stand to even look at himself in the mirror two years ago, I must say that I handled myself pretty well. I plan to continue going to those seminars as a way of giving back because so much has been given to me on this journey. It is a journey I would gladly take again...only sooner.
RP
One Year Out
Jun 25, 2009
I have been working hard on self-acceptance...of how I look, my moodiness, my need for validation from others, and my sometimes overwrought emotions. While I have bad days here and there, I am actually doing really well overall from an emotional perspective. There is more work to do, but I seem to be ready for that. I have come to realize that some important relationships in my life need work if they are to survive who I apparently am as a thinner person. I don't hold out much hope for changing how things are at work, so I have accepted that I need to move on, which is tough in this economy. My marriage needs work, too, much of it on my end, which will require time and patience. So the months ahead will be filled with trying to maintain my newfound good health, nurturing relationships,and more fully accepting the man I have become this past year.
The greatest surprise and delight I have experienced this year has to be all the wonderful people I have come to know on line and at the support group meetings I attend a couple of times per month. I don't know any finer, more caring people.
I am so glad that I have had this experience. I feel better than I have in 20 years, I am finally taking care of myself physically and emotionally, and I have acquired some remarkable new friends along the way. it's pretty hard not to be pleased with where I am right now.
RP
10 Months Out
Apr 24, 2009
The last 4 months have been tougher in some ways than the rapid weight loss phase because the transformation has been almot entirely internal. I started attending support group meetings with the Maple Grove, MN coffee folks. For the first time in my life I have opened myself up emotionally to a few people and spent more and more time walking and thinking. The net result of all that is that I have developed some excellent friendships and begun to accept my over-sensitive, emotional nature......something I have never really done before.
I am hoping that I can keep up the physical discipline of water, protein, exercise and supplements. That hasn't been too bad, really, especially the past several months. I have found that I have stopped seeking food for comfort when I have a bad day. The emotional stuff has been tough because at its root are my own questions about how acceptable I am as a person. A couple of my Maple Grove coffee friends have helped me grow immeasurably in that regard. I am beginning to truly like myself!
Some of my biggest worries, besides the obvious one of physical discipline, are how to continue to be more demanding of people in my personal relationships so that I maintain this newfound sense of self, not screwing up the close friendships I have developed at my support group, and figuring out how to deal with increased atttention from the opposite sex.
All in all, I am doing really well and feeling better than I have in more than 20 years. Pretty hard not to be pleased with that.
A Bit over 6 Months Out
Jan 07, 2009
3 Month Post
Sep 18, 2008
2 Months Out
Aug 19, 2008
One Month Post Surgery
Jul 22, 2008
2 Weeks PostSurgery
Jul 02, 2008
My wife has been tremendously supportive since my surgery and since she was quite skeptical beforehand, that turnaround has been most welcome.
I am still on a lifting restriction until next week and I am getting antsy. I never realized how much stuff I lift and move around until I have had to make conscious decisions to not lift more than 20 lbs for the past two weeks.
Anyhow, so far so good.
1 Week Post Surgery
Jun 25, 2008
I had my one week post-op appointment yesterday and I was down 15 lbs in a week! Overall, I am down 72 lbs since I started the pre-op diet and exercise program on February 19th. I am on a 3 week liquid diet after surgery, although I can have light yogurt in small quantities.
The other happy news is that I was on 2 blood pressure medications and now I am down to taking only half of one of them. Eventually, I may get off them altogether.
Surgery Date!!
May 31, 2008