Jun 08, 2010I was reading a post by lolalucy. She was writing about losing weight and still looking the same. I have lost 55 pounds or so, and I still look just like I did before. When I look at pictures I can see a difference, but when I look in the mirror, I look just like I always have. My husband says No Way. I look different to him. People I see often have really noticed the weight loss now. My mother hugged me and almost started crying, she was so happy about the weight I have lost. All I could think was, You love me because I lose weight????? I wanted to scream! I am very glad about it, but it is just weight. All the things that really matter haven't changed. My mother has obvious enormous food and body image issues, and I need to remember that. It just hurt. I guess I wish I had a better relationship with my mother. I hope I remember all of this with my little girl, so that I don't hurt her. I'm sure there are lots of people with MUCH worse mother-daughter relationship problems than I have. My mother is just so disconnected from all of our lives, she has her own world at her job, and it seems like that replaced her family. I guess I long for that relationship that we don't have.