JustHat 19 years, 9 months ago

April. I read in your profile that you didn't know if anyone was reading your profile. I just want to say thank you. When I started on my journey, I read everything I could so I would know how best to handle Tricare. It is because of you and others that have posted profiles and advice that I was able to work the system so quickly. So, a big THANK YOU. I also saw that you are starting you lives as civilians. Good luck. I hope that the change over is smooth and your futures bright. ~~Hat

Naes Wls J. 20 years, 6 months ago

<b>~*~(From my heart to yours)I SAID A PRAYER FOR YOU TODAY~*~ I said a prayer for you today And know God must have heard- I felt the answer in my heart Although He spoke no word I didn't ask for wealth or fame, I knew you wouldn't mind, I asked Him to send treasures Of a far more lasting kind, I asked that He'd be near you At the start of each new day, To grant you health and blessings And friends to share your way. I asked for happiness for you In all things great and small, But it was for His loving care I prayed the most of all.(unknown author)~*~Hugs~*~</b>

Michael O. 21 years, 4 months ago

April... I read your post and wanted to give you some encouragement.. I am also 23 and I had lap rny on june 4 02.. I am only 6 months post and down 130 pounds.. I feel awesome and have no regrets,, when i was 1 month post like you i was also feeling bad and wondering if I made the wrong decision.. TRUST ME YOU WONT REGRET THIS>>> those feelings will quickly go away as u lose the weight and realize the freedom you now have of not having food control your life.. email me anytime at [email protected] id love to talk sometime.. all the best..... Mike(-130)

swtp2nia1 21 years, 4 months ago

Hi April~ I read your post tonite and felt badly for you. I can't claim that I know what you're going through because I have not had surgery yet. I can understand the feelings of regret, however, on doing something that you can go back and change. That much I can relate to. So maybe I can offer some advice or validate certain things we both know are true. Accepting things we cannot change is very hard, but, once we learn how to deal with them it WILL get easier. Be good to yourself - as best you can. Don't beat yourself up for a decision you made that you knew was right for you at that moment. You did a lot of research and the benefits will pay off as time goes on. Things WILL get back to "a" normal. It may not be exactly what you were used to but people change all the time. Treat WLS for what it is - a MAJOR change that you have to deal with. You'll be okay. Just take it one day/hour at a time. I have several friends who felt the same way - thought they'd never be able to eat normal again. But they HAVE been able to get back to a new normal. A normal that allows them food AND weight loss. Being only 4 weeks out you're still healing and your tummy is still figuring its new normal out. Keep coming here for love and support. So many people here know what you're going through. That, in itself, is comforting. Again, I haven't walked in your shoes - yet. But 'try' and remember the reasons you wanted WLS. To feel, look and be a better YOU. And that's what you should focus on. You're going to do great and a new "normal" is just around the corning. Hugs and blessings to you!

Tami D. 21 years, 5 months ago

April, I am trying to catch up on last weeks messages on the board, and saw yours. I hope you are feeling better but wanted to drop in and give you some encouragement. What you are going through is completely normal. I hated my choice for surgery until I was about 4 weeks post op. The first 2-3 months are really rough, but it WILL get better! Truthfully.. I am now 15 weeks out and I am SO HAPPY I did this. Even with Thanksgiving coming up (and I am hosting my whole family and cooking) I am still eternally grateful. Eventually you will be able to eat what others are eating, just not as much, you won't feel deprived anymore, just happy and healthy. Just try to be patient.. it will happen! God Bless and I pray you will feel better soon Tami

saxon1014 21 years, 5 months ago

Hi April...you are going through a very NORMAL, albeit frustrating time...just remember, if you were eating 'normally' before, you wouldn't have needed the surgery in the first place! Just keep getting in your protein, essential fats (the good ones that help build our bodies up, like flaxseed oil, fish oil, etc), and lots of water! Try some of the different protein drinks out there...you must keep your energy up, since it will naturally take a nose dive once you come off the meds...keep your body fueled, and keep your mind and spirit educated! Learn what really is 'normal' when it comes to nutrition...it will help you AND your family live longer, healthier lives! God bless you, and hope you feel better soon!

Jeanine S. 21 years, 5 months ago

April....hang in there! The first 2-3 weeks are the toughest physically and mentally. You are experiencing NORMAL reactions to the loss of your food. It gets better I promise you. I am now almost 6 months post op and I have gone from a size 24/26 top (20/22 bottom) to a size 12/14 now. I was 252.5 and am now 172. Can I just tell you that the feeling of being thin outweighs your desire for food after you get over the "newly" post op period. Once you start eating more "normal" food items it wont seem as bad as it does now. The stage 1 & 2 diet are the worst...but it will not be like that forever. HANG IN THERE....you did the right thing for yourself and your children. You will see that in time. Right now it seems impossible to believe....but take it from someone who has been there already....it does get better!

Melanie D. 21 years, 5 months ago

Hi April, Please, hang in there. Life does get better. I am 3 months out and am so happy that I had the surgery. I was feeling the same way that you do now. Believe me, take it one day at a time and things do get better. Take care, Melanie

Katherine M. 21 years, 5 months ago

Dear April...I'm so sorry that you are feeling lousey. I hope that you are giving yourself lots of pats and hugs and letting yourself cry and asking those around you for help. The weather this week has absolutely got to be hindering your recovery. I live in Vancouver (wa) and I'd be happy to be a pen pal or even phone pal if you want to give me a call. Hug your babies, try to rest, and let me know if I can do anything? Katherine

Dawn E. 21 years, 5 months ago

April, I'm sorry you aren't happy sweetie! Just remember what you wrote in your profile. You are tired of being overweight, you want to live to a ripe old age to see the children of those wonderful babies you have and you want the energy to play with them, interact in their school functions, and to be the best mommy ever. Keep your chin up sweetie and remember... in a few months you will probably be able to eat the foods you like, just in smaller quantities. Food was not your friend.. .sure it comforted you (as it does me) but it was like a bad drug that made you miserable. Find a counselor to talk to or find an Overeater's Anonymous chapter near you. I plan on joining after my surgery because I went there before and they really helped me until the group I went to broke up. It's free (donation only) and you will meet people there that feel the same way as you. Also ask your doctor if there is a support group in your area. I know I am inspired and feel great after mine! Good luck sweetie. Hold up that chin, KNOW that there is no way back.. and plow through this like a bull in a china closet. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
About Me
Royse City, TX
Location
25.8
BMI
RNY
Surgery
11/07/2002
Surgery Date
Feb 23, 2002
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