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Had gastric bypass 3 yrs ago, lost 300 lbs but went in with cong heart failure, pulumary disease, diabetes, asthma,etc ran into several complications, kidneys shut down, icu to ccu, then wound open and draining for months, oh year when i left the hosp i was bleeing internally, went home for 2 days afraid to go back to the hosp till mom called 911 and i went to a local hosp. 7 pints of blood and never did find where i was bleeding. Finally get back to work and few months later got a hernia..big..and threw up for the next two years..got a skin removal and tightening out of it but a few months later my body starting rejecting the mesh, made a open wound and developed staph infection. Now we are seeing a blood specialist and have a pic line for 6 weeks of antibiotics, just about ready to have the surgery and I lost my beautiful 25 yr old daughter. Needless to sat the surgery was delayed and i have been on oral antibiotics for almost a yr. I think the mesh is trying to come back through the stomach and i now have a intestinal infection. The blood specialist has written the letter to the surgeon saying the mesh needs to come out now. I go to the surgeon and he gets to looking and there is over 12 in of mesh and he remembers all the complications..2nd surgery sh been 2-3 hrs i was 6 from adhesions. I signed the consent forms for the surgery but then his nurse calls and he wants a plastic surgeon in at closing..I make the appt but he is not on my aetna hmo...there are 0 plastic surgeons in that hosp and my dr only works from there. Best i can hope for is an out of network referral b/c it is medical and i will have to pay the rest if he will take it. HELP