Online Dating

Virtual Reality - Online Dating After Weight Loss Surgery

“How many more websites with pictures of happy couples will it take before you take the plunge and throw yourself out there to the lions?” I was frustrated when I jokingly asked a client this question. She had gotten a Lap-band two years before and basically was still asking why she could not get a date. She responded the way many weight loss patients respond when this sort of question is asked of them: “Well…I just don’t trust those dating services.” Then I followed with the second question: “So…are you sure you don’t trust them, or are you more afraid of actually taking a step into the dating arena?”

This patient is stuck in a place I as a therapist recognize. It is that place where you either risk losing your safety and familiarity, or you end up depressed and alone. She is basically safe now, but she is also very lonely, bored and frustrated. My encouragement to “do something” is acknowledged—but that is what her weight has protected her from. This weight loss patient is like many of us. She was overweight all of her life, never had experience dating and now she is in her forties, looking good, but terrified of what she doesn’t understand....Read more.

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