Almost 4 yrs. out and feeling out of control

Haven't been here in a long time and I'm looking for support from folks who've gone through this - lost their way and returned. I have gained back 25 lbs. and feel totally FAT again. Can't seem to control myself any more. I seem to be able to eat anything, sugar doesn't bother me, even quantity isn't a big problem. I know what I'm doing wrong: grazing, too many carbs, not enough exercise but seem to be back in old mind-set that got me were I was before. Just reading posts here from you folks has helped some (at least as long as I'm here at the computer reading - can't guarantee it will work when I get out in the kitchen!) I just can't believe I went through all of this 4 yrs. ago and now I still can't control my eating!! What's wrong with me?

You're not alone. I came back to OH feeling the same way. Why am I not at goal yet? Hopefully in returning, and like you said coming to these boards, we can make the much needed changes.

Hi there, I'm 4 years postop and have also regained. I initially weighed 305 - lost down to 195, then on year 2 gained up to 209. Panic set in. I joined a "Quick Weight Loss" diet plan and lost 30 lbs on a VERY rigid diet (carrots were forbidden b/c they have sugar!). Needless to say as soon as the diet ended, the 30 lbs came back, along with more. Now I weigh 215. Here's what I'm trying to do...I'm working with an eating disorder therapist using the "Intuitive Eating" approach. That's a book I highly recommend to all of us with eating issues. I'm also trying to be grateful that I weigh 215 and no longer have hypertension, gastric reflux, joint pain or sleep apnea. The truth is if I'd not had surgery 4 years ago I'd probably weigh 350 by now at the rate I was continuing to gain weight! I'm also trying to forgive myself for being human. Many many years ago, I learned to use eating as a means of survival and coping. Not a healthy means, but it has gotten me to this point in life. Now I must be kind to myself as I learn new ways to live. Congratulations on the postop weight you have acheived and continue to be as kind to yourself as you possibly can. Jane

If you haven't dealt with the issues that caused you to overeat in the first place these things are going to happen. I was doing great but recently gained about 6 pounds (yeah, I know it's only 6 pounds but you all know that 6 becomes 10 becomes 20 becomes 50...) and I can trace it back to something happening that brought back all those feelings of insecuity and fear that caused my problems in the first place. Thought I had dealt with them with therapy but there they were. It has happened before and I did get through it and I'll get through this. Give yourself a break, many people just transfer their addictions to drugs sex or alcohol. The good news is that you can get back on track. I did it by going cold turkey back to protein powder and ate the way I did right after surgery. (I'm not recommending this, it just worked for me) )My stomach shrank back down and it reminded me of what I had gone through and how far I had come. I'm going to do that again, and I'm going to take a harder look at what it is that causes me to stumble. I don't think I'll ever really be okay until deal with all that. Good luck and keep your head up, you can do this!

Gail I am almost 5 yrs out and going thru the same thing. I have developed several medical conditions since having RNY. I would do it again tomorrow. BUT, I have gained 32 pounds and lost 8 in the past few days. I am drinking the new OOlong tea that was on Oprah and it seems to be working. I also can eat anything and as much as I want. This is not right!!! When you find out what is wrong, Please let me know!!