How do you tell that new person in your life

 I am on maintenance and have met a new guy and I am just looking for advice on how other post op VSGer;s told their new guy.  Perhaps waiting till we have been together longer is better or maybe right at the beginning is better.  It is hard to say.  But I would love to hear others experiences.  Thanks

How long have you been seeing this guy?

Six years after surgery it is your normal.  Why tell him at all?

Oy. I hadn't really thought of it. I dunno, I'm pretty open about my surgery so I'd probably tell them up front. Maybe make a crack about being a cheap date at dinner and "no really, I do eat like this"? Hmmm...

I would probably wait until it is appropriate to talk about personal health issues.  So not on the first date, maybe not even on the first few dates.  I wouldn't really bring it up until I thought we were having a relationship rather than just dating.  I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, it's just one of many things about you. I can't see this being a deal breaker to anyone, just like having your appendix out shouldn't really change anything.  If you are comfortable with it, he will be too.

 same for me ,i am only 5.5 mo out but i date a lot,when we go out to dinner  i let them order first or i order for them after she tell me what she would like ,then i order mine , in most cases it's just a appetizer,almost 90% of the time my date will ask how come just a appetizer,i will tell them about my WLS and i get wow you look super  and thats the end of that....so if it comes up tell him if not then wait  a few dates ,it may never come up at all ...best of luck ..bruce

It's not like herpes, which I'd want to know about PRE first date. I'm not sure I'd mention it for awhile.

And I sure hope I have the chance to worry about this delimma very soon! lol

 Steph - hilarious as always!

I try to avoid dinner dates early on.  It's just too awkward.  I went to a ball game and politely declined any ballpark food, saying that I had already eaten.  No fuss, no questions!  I'm also a big fan of a Sunday afternoon walk in the park as a first date, mostly because someone who doesn't think that's fun isn't really for me.

I'm open almost to a fault, so I'd probably share pretty early.  Sadly, many of my first dates get screened out for things like not removing his hat during the national anthem or talking during the movie.  And some of them screen me out, of course!

I hint about it a lot at first. You'd be surprised how many guys know someone personally that has had surgery.