Need help BAD!!

Im with you on this one....no sympathy here. In fact, I believe this is a post written to get some attention. Maybe she has a drinking problem, but at the time this post was written, she was not drunk. Punctuation (parentheses), etc., is not something a drunk person would add. Sorry, but that is just my opinion. If she is drunk with a 3-year-old in her presence, CPS needs to be called. Flame away if you must, but I've lived with an alcoholic.....

You are wise in recognizing that you need help badly. You also realize it is bad for your little girl. And you realize you are substituting one addiction for another. Those are all good. Now you must ACT upon correcting it. Go to AA tomorrow. Get a counselor immediately. You can and will get through this successfully if you ACT now. Do not delay. We care about you here. But, you are the one that has to change the situation. You don't have to do it alone. Go to AA. God Bless you and your little girl. You can be the good mother you want to be for your daughter. Cindy

Hey Nikki. It took a lot of courage to ask for help. But, you will get quite a few mixed responses from this forum...some not so nice. Knowing what is going on is a big part of the fight. We have all battled with addiction. The difference between food and alcohol is that alcohol can be totally eliminated. But, you HAVE to eat. So, please try to at the very minimum make sure you get your nutrition in 3 times a day. I know it is discouraging. I have even been tempted to drink because I am very depressed, and I don't drink. Are you trying to use this to cope with depression, disappointment, etc?? Take a look at what the real problem is. For me it was the loss of my best friend...food. I still struggle with the fact that I have had this surgery. Although I have lost 70 lbs, I don't feel great at all yet. I just want to feel normal again. We all reach out for various reasons. I also know what it is like not to have friends you can turn to. I have never been one for large groups of friends. Find a new friend. Go to your local book store, the movies, church, anywhere you can meet people (besides a bar! ) Join a bowling league or a local support group for WLS. I think having a friend you can confide in that knows you is a great gift. You are doing a great job, you have just gotten off track a bit. Rethink things and start fresh. You have a whole new life ahead...hey, maybe even go on a cruise! Best of luck to you! Marsha

Marsha has great advice...wise and good. And you should heed it. And she was right about some repsonses not being so nice. This may be one of them. What will your 3 year old do if you die from liver damage caused by alcohol abuse. Our livers are vulnurable now. I have a high liver count and if I drank...I could do permanent damage. Read Marsha's reply to you. Then read it again. And again. Print it out and read it over and over. Be careful. Hugs Charlie

Nikki - The first thing you did right was to admit you have been abusing alcohol. Take the next step - NOW - and seek out some counselling. Check with your local mental health center or through your health insurance or your doctor or AA. DO IT NOW - don't procrastinate. You've already had surgery which is a big deal to go through to help give you a better quality of life. It's unfortunate that your "friends" are not there to offer support and encouragement which is sooooo important. Do it for yourself and for how far you've come. DO IT NOW SO YOUR DAUGHTER WILL HAVE A HAPPY, HEALTHY MOM. How could you even think about feeling sorry for yourself when you have so many choices out there to get help? You'll get all the support you need when you start to help yourself. DO IT NOW.

Get a grip!!!!Look at all you have gone through. When was your surgery? Did it take you long to start losing some weight? I am 10 days post-op, have been on liquids, and some cream of chicken soup. Mostly sugar free jello and popsicles, chicken broth. I have been having 4 Tablespoon meals...that is it. I have not lost an ounce. I feel bloated...and wondering what in the world I have done wrong. Now, please answer my question.. and, I will tell you that I will sincerely pray that you put away any alcohol from your life. I hope that your three year old will not remember seeing you drunk. Sounds like your life is pretty miserable right now, well, there is always light at the end of the tunnel...and this is just another one of those down times. Make new friends if your old friends are jealous. Did you ever think that you would be to the point that anyone would be jealous? Just smile, and thank God. Bren

WE ALL HAVE OUR FAULTS..BUT WHEN YOU HAVE A SMALL CHILD TO TAKE CARE OF YOU SHOULD BE MORE CAREFUL..YOU KNOW THAT..NONE OF US IS TELLING YOU ANYTHING YOU DONT KNOW..BUT HEY GIRL YOU NEED TO GET A GRIP.. AND FIND SOMEONE TO HELP YOU UNTIL YOU CAN GET SOME HELP..MAYBE A GOOD FRIEND OR FAMILY. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK..AND GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR LITTLE CHILD..STAY IN TOUCH..WE ALL CARE.AND HEY CONGRATS ON YOUR WEIGHT LOSS. HAPPYGAL

Nikki, I'm not going to flame you. I think you're getting enough of that. You know what you need to do. If you don't have the strength to do it on your own, then check yourself in somewhere and get professional help. Do it for your daughter.