I need advice..weight gain...family
I have posted before and received lots of help, I need some advice again... I am 2years post op...I have regained about 10 pounds.. Today my mother said that she thought I was gaining weight, and was concerned. I felt like that little kid again, and my first reaction was to o eat... I didn't but it stirred up old feelings..before wls I ate my emotions... I no longer do that, but she made me fee that way again. I do not know how to handle her comments.. I appreciate her concer..she doesn't realize that everyday ofmylife I wake up and think of my wls.. I have pictures to remind me of who I was..I weigh myself daily.. I go to the gym...
How do you recommend I handle this?
Thanks
Helen
Now that I have lost 54 lbs, and i have 45 more to go- she doesn't say anything.
If I were you, find that strength inside that gave you the courage to make the change in your life like WLS and then tell her what you need from her - if that means you tell her that you need her to not make those kind of comments - then tell her.
I am dealing with aging parents and I am an only child, so I totally understand the parent thing. Good luck to you.
Elizabeth
on 12/5/11 11:50 pm
RNY puts you on a level playing field with other people who fight weight gain. It is still a matter of diet and exercise after the magic honeymoon when weight falls off and stays off with almost no effort.
Telling you this might seem cruel. It is like saying that there is no Santa. But not telling you is much crueler. I have seen so many people who thought that their weight struggle and dieting days ended on the surgery table. That is so not true. Without diligence, the weight will return.
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.