Can you see me
Trust me....you are SO NOT ALONE!
Be her friend - she can show you how skinny people eat - and how to dress to show your best side...
I have some skinny friends - I learn a lot from them. Now - they ask me for help...
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
Finally I said to her, look, when I get upset, I eat. When I eat, I gain weight. When I gain weight, I get upset. When I get upset, I eat.
She got it.
Yeah, I've been where you are. Those head issues of "I want..." are the hardest part of all of this!
Circumferential LBL, anchor TT, BL/BR, brachioplasty 12-16-10 Drs. Howard and Gutowski
Thigh lift 3-24-11, Drs. Howard and Gutowski again!
Height 5' 5". Start point 254. DH's goal: 154. My guess: 144. Insurance goal: 134. Currently bouncing around 130-135.
Work on your self-esteem and I guarantee that if you start mimicking her personality instead of her appearance, they'll talk to you more, too.
Just a thought :) - I was fat for years and never had trouble getting positive attention and making friends. It's all about how you feel and the attitude that you put out there to others.
Proud mama of Mischa and Gabriel, both born post-op.
I will tell you what I tell myself...Everyone has their problems, no matter how perfect another one's life appears. If my biggest problem is that I have to battle with my weight every day of my life, I consider myself pretty fortunate.
It'll be ok.
((and btw, I'm 1 month out since surgery...and depression/anxiety/anger is my current demon, but you know IT WILL BE OK!!))
Personally, I would ask for one of the 'things' that she is working on, and I would 'wow them with my competence' --- to MAKE them see me.
"Easy on the eyes" is flashy at first, but people want to work with those who know their stuff (and she may be both). Stand up and get noticed ------