post op, support...3 yrs later????

Hi everyone.  I am having a bit of a problem, I hope you can help me with. I have lost so much weight, and this summer I had a tummy tuck.....I look great.  Problem is, I am not starting to be able to eat more, and more...and I am so afraid of gaining back.  a lot of people do.  I have a lot of stress right now too.  I need to follow a more structured diet, maybe someone can suggest a 7 day portion sized diet for me to follow.  I dont want to gain it all back.  I was 350 at one time, befor rny, now I weight between 180 to 190/   I have no dr...as he moved away a year after my op, and I dont have a support group or people to help me out.  can anyone suggest anything, or maybe even email me back and forth with support ...I can give u my email if you ask for it on my profile.  If I stretched out my pouch is it too late?? gosh!!!

I had surgery the month before you. Give us an idea of what you might eat on a daily basis and how much and how often you are eating. 

 Ok, so heres the thing...Im not sure what a person is supposed to be able to eat 3 yrs out...but I will give you a sample of yesterdays food.  I cant today, because I went to the movies and gobbled up popcorn...

speaking of popcorn,...a lot of people tell me they cant eat that...but I have never had a problem.  I buy the light kind, to keep it more healthy, and I am able to eat one whole bag of light microwave popcorn.  I think its because it disolves so much. Its my favorite snack.  Is that bad?

so, Yesterday I made my family a big breakfast...
I ate, 
 
1/2 a bagel with margerine
1 fried egg,maybe 3 tablespoons fried potatoes, 2 slices bacon
for lunch I ate the other half of the bagel

dinner was about 1 1/2 cups elbow macaroni made with brocoli/peas and hamburger meat

I had some popcorn for a snack at night, and heres the kicker

I made homemade choc. chip cookies...and stupid me I ate probably 5 of them thru the day
and one homemade canoli! I know thats bad.

so I know I have to cut out the junk, but is it normal for me to be able to eat one whole sandwich at times now? or a whole salad from mcdonalds.?

thats another thing I can eat a lot of salad. Is that normal, or is it because I chew up the vegies so fine?  Im so worried about gaining.  I used to be up to 350 and Im pretty steady around 185 now.  I just had a tummy tuck this summer, and I suffered for it ....long recovery, had an infection, it was horrible.  I dont want to do this all in vain.  I know that the stress level in my life is adding to it.  When I was up to 350 I acknowledge that my eating was very much a mental thing.  and after the gastric bypass, I just couldnt eat a lot, because I would get sick.  Now what made me sick I can eat...and more.  If I stretched it out a little, can I shrink it back if I diet strick. should I go back to measuring and planning specific things to eat.  If so do you have a good suggestion as to what I should plan, portion sizes and times?  I hate not having a gastric dr or group to consult.  thank you in advance...Diane

Don't know where you live, but "big bear.." in your avatar name leads me to beleive near Big Bear Lake, CA.  I know at least one woman who drives from there to our support meetings in Redlands, CA.  This meeting is open to any one and is very helpful to many.   PM me is you'd like more info. DAVE

 lol, Nope, I am a ny'er!   My name comes from a nicname I was given..."bear" and since I used to be really big...hense the name...."big bear" maybe I should change it to little bear now? lol
thanks anyway

We have a support group that meets once a month at Victoria Gardens.  I don't know if that is too far for you.  If you give me your email address I can have the support group leader add you to the facebook page.  Its for ladies only so its nice to have a place to talk to just women who have gone through the same thing as you. 

 Hi there...I guess my name is decieving....I am actually from NY....so its a bit too far lol.   I dont mind giving you my email address if you would send me a private message via this site, I will gladly send one back with my email.  I appreciate it. :)