has this happend to anyone else

nikki2092
on 11/22/12 4:18 pm - MI

Has anyone else been accused of being bi-polar after weight loss because one they have energy now and two the people in there life who are used to being able to roll everything on them cant because for once in my life I have control of me and Love myself???? Just curious if this is why the divorce rate with this surgery is so High...

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poet_kelly
on 11/22/12 4:28 pm - OH

I know some people say the divorce rate is higher after WLS than without WLS, but I've never seen any data to verify that.  Can you tell me where you're getting that information?  What's the divorce rate for WLS patients?  Isn't it something like 50% for the general population? 

Anyway, no, I haven't been accused of being bipolar after weight loss.  I certainly don't have so much energy now that I am anything close to manic.

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nikki2092
on 11/22/12 4:52 pm - MI

I dont know about the rate of divorce either.. but I do know that before my surgery my diabetes was so bad that a 275-300  blood sugar felt like 80-100 now so with that said i used to eat it to 500 to sleep or bring me down emotionally  and now I dont eat to cope i exercise get counceling and  I am full of energy and when people try to co-dependant me into something I choose not to do they are put in there place assertive/or aggressive if need be.. I am just learning now how much I really didnt love myself and I am learning that now i may be a little hyper active but I always have been and am able to function in society very well but actually who would be able to judge or measure that I guess you would have to ask my friends obviously not my husbands family(lol).. I am a third shifter and when non- third shifters are getting ready for bed i am just getting into my afternoon.. lol

By the way poet Kelly thanks for being faithful to this site.. I can say you have been a staple on here... havent always agreed or understood but none the less I have been here for a year and you are still here also... so I guess what I am saying is thanks for being you...

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onmom
on 11/22/12 5:04 pm

I found lots info on the web of this stats but not sure how they tabulated the info. Here is one often quoted article

 "HAVE YOU READ WEIGHTY SECRETS?"

 Counseling Bariatric Surgery Patients - By Dan Orzech - Social Work Today Vol. 5 No. 6 P. 24

The divorce rate after weight-loss surgery is extremely high, according to Pilcher. So is the rate of job change.

That’s not always a bad thing. Morbidly obese people, subject to a lifetime of discrimination, often come to feel helpless and accept situations others would not, says Pilcher.

“Many patients, through the weight loss, become empowered to get themselves out of situations—work or marriage—that were bad,” he says.

Not everyone is affected in the same way, however.

“If a patient in a long-term marriage was a normal weight when the marriage began,” Pilcher says, “that marriage is probably in pretty good shape to withstand the changes following surgery.

If the patient was heavy at the time the marriage or the relationship began, however, there’s an 80% to 85% chance that that relationship is going to break up within two years of surgery.

MrsLitch
on 11/22/12 5:40 pm - Morris, IL
RNY on 06/04/12

Well.... since I do have a diagnosis of  bipolar it wouldn't be far off lol.. but yes I can see how people could take the swings of hormones, as well as energy levels and the new found confidence to be signs of bipolar. There have been a few times where I've had to ask myself if it was my bipolar or after affects of surgery. Many of the things that had me questioning it I've seen others on here post about so for those things I assume they were surgery related.

I would guess the reason for divorce after wls are many just as they are for non wls. The main one's I would expect would be the post op gaining self esteem and empowerment and figuring out they don't have to settle, or an already troubled relationship. As strong as my relationship with my DH is he has made comments about my "mood" since surgery on more than one occasion lol

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Patm
on 11/23/12 4:07 am - Ontario, Canada
RNY on 01/20/12

I have more energy and usually happier since surgery. I am lucky my husband and I have been through my weight ups and downs and he is just happy I am healthier. He does feel however I maybe trying to kill him with exercise. LOL

  

 

 

 

MyLady Heidi
on 11/23/12 4:09 am

Nope no one said I was more nuts after surgery then before.  I have a lot more energy and do a lot more things then I did before, and I have adopted a new hobby, but none of that has anything to do with my boyfriend of 10 years who I had before, during and after surgery.  My weight really isn't an issue in our relationship.

GARLANDD
on 11/23/12 4:18 am

...i was bipolar for many years before the surgery and i am bipolar today, years later. the meds made it very difficult to lose weight. i went off them for 2 years and the results were disaster. but i did lose the weight to goal weight. i went back on the meds and of course gained a lot of weight. i am 12 years post op and was single when i had the surgery. i have a partner of 10 years now. i went through a sexual freedom and connections with people that was "what i always wanted but never had" i think that is very common among us for we lived in that fat desperation most of our lives. for me it eventually passed and ended.

 

Citizen Kim
on 11/23/12 4:50 am - Castle Rock, CO

Thankfully I have never had mental health problems but I am mid-divorce.   It has absolutely nothing to do with my surgery or weight ...

I do think some people who have been obese most of their life may experience a "sudden" sense of self.   They are less likely to put up with being put on, and feel able to be more vocal about what they want or need.  

Therefore, I think if you are in a crappy marriage and lose weight you are more likely to seek a divorce, and if you are in a good marriage, it will make diddly squat difference!

 

 

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AnniesSS
on 11/23/12 5:30 am
RNY on 09/11/12
I am more emotional at times following my surgery but not bi-polar. I'm just sensitive to sad movies and other emotional situations. Lol. As for my marriage... we have a good strong relationship and has very happy and comfortable with me getting the surgery and for my weight loss. I don't think well be in the statistics of divorce.
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