jealous

Okay, I'm only a week out, but already I've had 2 people say to me "oh I'm gonna be so jealous when you lose weight" I'm like "ehh..heh" I don't know what to say! I don't respond well to those types of reactions. Maybe they think they're giving a compliment? I dunno.... Anyone else experience these awkward moments?

This is just the beginning.  Just wait until you lose so much that you become thinner than the other women in your life.  Some may get a little testy when they feel threatened, especially the one who has to take your place as the larger of the group.

Ugh, thanks. Something to look forward to!(Sarcasm intended :)) 

You could always use my favorite comeback, which always stops people in their tracks: "What on earth would prompt you to say something like that"?

Or just a snarky answer like, "Well, that's fine. I never liked you much anyway."

Hahahahaaa! Fabulous!

They are going to be jealous.  Lots of other people will be jealous too.  There are several people in my life who have taken up diet and exercise in an effort to outdo me. 

They look fantastic and let it be known that they did it without surgery.  I am proud of them and compliment them privately and in front of other people.

I feel badly for those who failed at weight loss surgery, failed at traditional dieting, and are struggling to find and maintain a healthy weight. I know that I have been given a gift.  It was like winning the lottery of weight control.  I was lucky enough to get the surgery and lucky enough to be able to confirm to the lifestyle needed after surgery to reach my goal and maintain it.

My answer to those people who tell me that they are jealous is the I was just very lucky.

 

 

Thank you for this. :)

I'm sure they mean well - just not good at giving compliments - a feeble attempt at humor. Take it in the spirit it's offered - just laugh, and agree that you're excited to start your new life. It's obvious that they feel awkward, too, but still wanted to reach out to you in their own way to show some support. A snarky response would undoubtedly be funny, but this is not the time to risk alienating those that could be there for you. Hang in there, mama - we know how you feel! :)

Thank you

I have had this too. It has made me uncomfortable, since personally I am always happy for others success. Just my nature. At first I didn't know what to say. Now I say "oh no don't be jealous, be happy that because of my ability to control my food intake and address my obesity I will be alive longer to spend with my family. That usually stops that jealous nonsense.