All by myself

jmgrant81
on 4/2/14 7:57 am - deltona, FL

I have not even had the surgery yet, but I am finding it difficult to be around my family's eating habits.  All the fried food and pizza, I am thinking I am going to have to separate myself for bit, until I learn to say no....Did anyone else have this problem?

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on 4/2/14 9:07 am
jmgrant81
on 4/2/14 11:11 am - deltona, FL

I caught myself doing the last meal thing.   It is awful!

Gwen M.
on 4/2/14 10:21 am
VSG on 03/13/14

I agree that if you have control over what your family eats, you should exert it.  And if you don't cook dinners for your family, this might be a great time to start!  Modeling healthy behavior and habits for them will improve their lives as well as your own.  

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

TrendWeight | Food Blog (sort of functional) | Journal (down for maintenance)

jmgrant81
on 4/2/14 11:10 am - deltona, FL

Luckily for me, i have no kids to feed.  I do well till the weekends when I spend time with family and friends.  It is just hard you want them not eat bad stuff around you, but you are the only making changes in your life.  Can't expect the world to change because you are in the process.

Gwen M.
on 4/2/14 11:12 am
VSG on 03/13/14

Are you talking potluck type things?  Are you able to bring your own dishes?  (For what it's worth, I'm glad it's just the weekend and not every day!)

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

TrendWeight | Food Blog (sort of functional) | Journal (down for maintenance)

Cathy W.
on 4/2/14 11:36 am

When you start eating healthy and follow the nutrition protocols of your surgeon, hopefully they will want to support you and eat that way as well.  When you lose weight and they see you becoming healthy and happier, you may find them doing just what you're doing. 

If you find it to be a problem after you've had surgery, you might need to talk to them to explain how you are committed to eating healthy.  Stick to your commitment to yourself that you've made by having surgery.  No food is ever worth compromising your surgery and commitment to a healthy lifestyle.

MsBatt
on 4/2/14 3:10 pm

This is something you're just going to have to accept. Other people are going to continue to eat the way they want to, and you're going to have to either get tough or avoid being places where people are eating. Sorry, but that's just the way it is. It doesn't mean they don't love you and support you, it just means that the truly hard part of WLS is the head part.

cindylou59
on 4/2/14 5:01 pm

You are making a lifestyle change. Sit down and have a family meeting and explain why you are doing this...because you want to have a longer life.  Ask them to support you.

jmgrant81
on 4/4/14 6:55 am - deltona, FL

Thank you all for your replies

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