Divorce

okay I do not want to become statistic but  I can not shake the overwhelming urge to get a divorce my husband has been strong and has been afraid I would find someone else I do not want anyone else I have put up with a lot of disrespect from his kids and grand kids I am tired of the fight and I cant stand that he does not stand up for me now I know that I am opinionated and somewhat hard to deal with but I get very tired of it I am tired of my life not being my own not having my own car and some freedom am I loosing my mind please help me 

I would seek therapy.but I know what you are sayin.. stay strong PeaceV Wendy

Maybe a strong, calm talk with him, along with your pastor?  All too often, men simply ignore the reasons for unhappiness in a marriage until it's pointed out in exact terms.  If that doesn't work, then maybe divorce is the only answer, but first give him the opportunity to try to change.

Well, since you just created your account before you posted, we do not know what part of your journey you are on. If you are still losing or just recently got to goal, adjusting to the changes can be tough for both sides.

I am sorry you are in a bad situation. The practical side of me wonders how you would support yourself if you do not even have a car. Get your ducks in a row so you can take care of yourself before making any big decisions.

Ditto what Laura said.  It also sounds like counseling (individual counseling for you and/or couples counseling) would be very beneficial.

Lora