Information please people!

oh boy, you got me all excited,now!

It would appear that her meds have kicked in.

she did,you were right. She blocked me after she posted to me and I didn't even get to say " are you still here?" She has been promising to leave,as you say, ever since she has been here....

   Yep, a "post and block" coward to go with it!

hollykim:

Thanks for proving my point.

Thank you Lori , I appreciate that . And I really hope you dont go elsewhere , there is a wealth of info on this one , and seems to be the best one I have found . 

You're right , there is a way to word things without making people feel uncomfortable , and thats all I said ...because I did feel uncomfortable !!! Not acceptable apparently . 

Thanks again and id love to share experiences with you dear :) . 

Jax x

Jaxxie certainly could have made HER point without being rude or condescending.

Find a dictionary.

I wasn't going to weigh in, but now I must. Courtesy of Dictionary.com:

con·de·scend·ing

/ˌkɒndəˈsɛndɪŋ/ Show Spelled [kon-duh-sen-ding] Show IPA

adjective showing or implying a usually patronizing descent from dignity or superiority: They resented the older neighbors' condescending cordiality.   

rude

/rud/ Show Spelled [rood] Show IPA adjective, rud·er, rud·est. 1. discourteous or impolite, especially in a deliberate way: a rude reply. 2. without culture, learning, or refinement: rude, illiterate peasants. 3. rough in manners or behavior; unmannerly; uncouth. 4. rough, harsh, or ungentle: rude hands. 5. roughly wrought, built, or formed; of a crude construction or kind: a rude cottage.   From Urbandictionary: asshat A person, of either gender, whose behavior displays such ignorance/obnoxiousness that you would like to make them wear their own ass as a hat.  

ETA:

Moderated myself.

You nailed them, Lori.

I one hundred percent guarantee you jaxie, that Hislady, of ALL people, did not mean to be either aggressive or condescending. She, like most of us, want to help people who need help, but to do that we need to know certain things. For example, if you want to know what is "normal" for a surgery, we need to know WHICH ONE so we can provide correct information for that procedure. If you've had RNY, you probably need an RNY veteran to tell you about RNY life. What's "normal" for someone with a band is probably not "normal" for someone with a DS.

On the other hand, questions about exercise can probably be answered by almost anyone.

There's no "hierarchy" here except for some people having been on OH longer than others (I've been on here 11 years) and the "older" folks knowing better how to direct someone to assistance than the newer folks. Yes, there ARE "newbies" who know almost nothing about WLS and we want to help them as much as we can. That doesn't make them stupid, just lacking in information, which we hope to provide.