feeling alone

dreamer1234
on 4/10/19 2:27 pm

today i am feeling totally alone. i live in a small town and my apartment complex where i live has mostly older folks that are morbidly obese. i mean i am doing very well with the weight loss but there are times that i want to tell someone about my new recipes or the fact that i had baked chicken and veggies for lunch or that my goal is to get one of those funny weight loss tee shirts or the fact that i have to read labels on everything i eat or why am i losing so much weight in my shoulders and my clothes bag on me or does anyone understand i am having skin issues and have to go to the dr for this? there is a support group i can go to but it only meets 4 times a year. i do probably sound whinny like i am feeling sorry for myself. i'm sorry if this is how i am coming across. i mean when you have the surgery it totally changes every part of you. i know, i had the surgery for me and no one else. i have to concentrate on that. thanks everyone for just letting me vent.

Partlypollyanna
on 4/10/19 3:15 pm
RNY on 02/14/18

Post more here!

No matter where you are in this process, I suspect someone on here has been there!

I find that there's great advice when I need it; encouragement or a kick in the pants when those are warranted and great Support and celebration with people that understand that some days the big win just white knuckling through the day...and other time it's happy dancing because your knees now let you!

Engage in the virtual community and it engages with you:-)

HW: 306 SW: 282 CW:144.8 GW: 145 (reached 2/6/19), next goal - 132.9

Jen

Partlypollyanna
on 4/10/19 3:19 pm
RNY on 02/14/18

Oh, forgot to say, I love seeing new recipes. I know the recipe thread doesn't get much action but I check it out when I notice something new -- and the menu threads are good places for that too!

HW: 306 SW: 282 CW:144.8 GW: 145 (reached 2/6/19), next goal - 132.9

Jen

Gwen M.
on 4/11/19 6:23 am
VSG on 03/13/14

I want to figure out how to get in the habit of posting recipes, but I never seem to manage!

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

TrendWeight | Food Blog (sort of functional) | Journal (down for maintenance)

Grim_Traveller
on 4/10/19 3:19 pm
RNY on 08/21/12

Come here!

Seriously, it's very common for those of us who do talk to people in our lives about all the things you mentioned -- and it drives them crazy. They start to hide from us, because all we want to talk about for a while is weight loss, food, and everything else.

So come here, let it all out, the good the bad, and the ugly. It helps.

6'3" tall, male. Maintaining a loss of 280 pounds.

Highest weight was 475. Consult weight 04/12 was 411. RNY on 08/21/12 at 359 lbs. Current weight 195.

M1 -24; M2 -21; M3 -19; M4 -21; M5 -13; M6 -21; M7 -10; M8 -16; M9 -10; M10 -8; M11 -6; M12 -5.

Sparklekitty, Science-Loving Derby Hag
on 4/10/19 3:21 pm
RNY on 08/05/19

I absolutely agree with the others that you can (and should!) post here! Both the RNY and the VSG board have a daily menu thread that's a great way to get to know other people on OH, talk about your progress, and see how other people are doing.

Remember, WLS is a HUGE life change and it's absolutely normal to have a whole bunch of big feelings about it. So coming here, where people "get it," is really helpful :)

Nerdy Little Secret (#42) - Derby Strong!
VSG 2013, lost 150lb - RNY conversion 2019 due to GERD


catwoman7
on 4/10/19 4:33 pm
RNY on 06/03/15

my bariatric clinic has a monthly support group meeting, but I pretty much never go anymore. Even if I did, it's too infrequent to be of much help. So OH is my support group. As others have said, join one of the menu threads - if you become a "regular" on there, you'll get to know a ton of people! And a lot of us can relate to what you're going through.

RNY 06/03/15 by Michael Garren (Madison, WI)

Plastic Surgery 08/10/18 and 03/29/19 by Lawrence Zachary (Chicago, IL)

HW: 373 SW: 316 GW: 145 LW: 138 CW: 150

Gwen M.
on 4/11/19 6:22 am
VSG on 03/13/14

I had been going to the local bariatric program support group, but I finally had to stop. In theory, it's an awesome resource, but in actuality it was a bunch of people talking about frankenfood replacements and bragging about their lack of exercise. To me, it seemed like it just really reinforced the idea that the surgery was a magic solution that would let you keep on doing all the things you did before and still lose weight.

For a while I tried to go to counteract this, since I was longer out post-op than any of the other regulars, but I just don't have the energy to do that labor anymore :/

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

TrendWeight | Food Blog (sort of functional) | Journal (down for maintenance)

Donna L.
on 4/11/19 4:16 am - Chicago, IL
Revision on 02/19/18

By and large the people here are fabulous. I haven't been around much due to anxiety, but even reading the forums is so helpful. I've met some of the best people in my life here.

Also, regarding shoulders, I feel you. Apparently I have to lose weight everywhere but my butt. Thanks a lot, butt, for being, well, a butt.

I follow a ketogenic diet post-op. I also have a diagnosis of binge eating disorder. Feel free to ask me about either!

It is not that we have so little time but that we lose so much...the life we receive is not short but we make it so; we are not ill provided but use what we have wastefully. -- Seneca, On the Shortness of Life

Gwen M.
on 4/11/19 6:18 am
VSG on 03/13/14

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

TrendWeight | Food Blog (sort of functional) | Journal (down for maintenance)

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