negative comments

There was time when I was so fed up with negative comments, that when someone told me things like that I looked at them and asked "was that story supposed to make me feel good? No, so why were you telling me that? . Often the person realized that comments like that are negative and even if you wanted to change your mind, you can't. It's done.

I haven't had any negative comments from anyone yet, but if I did, my response would be acerbic too. "Oh gee, well I guess I'd better go back and get the surgery undone!"

you have received good answers and all I can add is to say do you pay for my health car? No? Then it's none of your concern." I'm pretty blunt while being respectful.

First and foremost... Congratulations on your weight loss! No one else's opinion about your medical history matters. Are you a horror story... you can respond with "well, now you know a success story!" It's funny when you tell people about any other disease and they don't bat an eyelash... but then you mention a weight-related "xyz" then suddenly everyone is a critic and an expert. Ultimately, it's up to you who you decide to tell. I use the opportunity to educate. If someone is willing to listen and learn about my struggles, they are worth the time to vest and understand my "why"... If I don't feel comfortable, I will tell another truth... diet, tracking and exercise and extreme discipline throughout the entire process. You'll find the tribe who is willing to support you, REGARDLESS and the nay-sayers, you'll learn to really not care what they think.

You keep doing you and keep at it. You are doing fantastic!

"well, now you know a success story!" Brilliant; LOVE that response!

I'm a lot more open about it now than I was while I was losing weight. I didn't tell very many people about it then because I didn't want those negative comments, either. My close friends and family knew. And if someone else who struggled with their weight asked, I was honest about it. But skinny people? Rarely - unless I felt close to them or very "safe" around them. Skinny people believe the schlock about all it takes is diet and exercise, so that's what I told them I was doing (which was technically true, but...)

I don't usually tell people but I remember one time I told a nurse and she said "You don't look like you would have needed surgery". Huh? I just said that was the point, to lose weight so I wouldn't look like I needed to have WLS.

Tell them, well, now you know someone who has only had positive results and there are many more like you!

I'm 3 years post OP, I also get the Negative feedback about having bariatric surgery. It Has to do with each individual person, I feel like I hear those negative comments daily, I took the easy way out or I know so-and-so who gained their weight back. If I had a A dollar for every time I heard that comment I would be a millionaire. I have been maintaining now for two years and people still can't believe I've maintained as long as I have. The whole bariatric community in itself has a lot of failure but also a lot of success. I'm happy to say that I am a success as of two years maintaining. Just shut your ears to negative comments and keep doing what you were doing. We all had to do what we had to do to get where we are today. Just stay strong and be happy that you made the right choice because I know I did. Sincerely Linda

Star****ching motivational videos from youtube. Make this a habit. I had some wonderful experiences. Then I started reading books.. Everything changed.

Book suggestion: Power of Positive Thinking