OT - Depressed and feeling worthless. An update
Well, the hubby and I talked... A LOT last night. It didn't start off too good. A lot of yelling on his part and trying to put all of this on me and being pissed that I was snooping through his stuff yet again... I told him we needed to talk and he pushed and pushed and pushed to get the discussion started over the phone when that is NOT how I wanted it to go down.
Hubby seems to think he has larger cajones when he's not talking to me face to face.
Either way, after he got home the conversation took a turn toward productive. I gave him the option of counseling or divorce. He told me that this was his issue and that it wasn't because I was doing anything wrong. I told him I won't be going through this all again, so he better get a grip on this stuff. There are other cir****tances that I don't feel comfortable telling any of you about that make this a little bit different for me.
Think I'm stupid if you will, but I'm not going to let my marriage go without one hell of a fight.
Thank you all, though, for your support and advice and encouragement.
Hubby seems to think he has larger cajones when he's not talking to me face to face.
Either way, after he got home the conversation took a turn toward productive. I gave him the option of counseling or divorce. He told me that this was his issue and that it wasn't because I was doing anything wrong. I told him I won't be going through this all again, so he better get a grip on this stuff. There are other cir****tances that I don't feel comfortable telling any of you about that make this a little bit different for me.
Think I'm stupid if you will, but I'm not going to let my marriage go without one hell of a fight.
Thank you all, though, for your support and advice and encouragement.
You really should get into counseling though. It is best to have an UNbiased party there that can give both of you feedback and work through this with you.
As a single person we make but a whisper, as a crowd we make a roar. A friend.
"I never claimed to be an expert at such matters, but I am an expert at giving my opinion."- My dad
you aren't stupid, you are fighting for the life you want! I hope you get it.
*hugs*
*hugs*
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First 5K race October 4, 2009 (34.59) PR 5/22/11 (27:26)
First 5 Mile: January 1, 2011 (50:30)
First 10K: July 4, 2010 (1:03.26) New PR 4/10/11 (1:01.14)
First 10 Mile: April 11, 2010 (1:46.15)
First 1/2 marathon: June 13, 2010 (2:22.21) PR: 5/1/11 (2:17.30)
First Marathon: October 16, 2011: 5:47:20
Goofy Challenge: January 7-8, 2012
If you think you can, you can. If you think you can't, you're right. - Mary Kay Ash
First 5K race October 4, 2009 (34.59) PR 5/22/11 (27:26)
First 5 Mile: January 1, 2011 (50:30)
First 10K: July 4, 2010 (1:03.26) New PR 4/10/11 (1:01.14)
First 10 Mile: April 11, 2010 (1:46.15)
First 1/2 marathon: June 13, 2010 (2:22.21) PR: 5/1/11 (2:17.30)
First Marathon: October 16, 2011: 5:47:20
Goofy Challenge: January 7-8, 2012
If you think you can, you can. If you think you can't, you're right. - Mary Kay Ash
Only you can make desission what you need and will do to keep your marriage.
Glad you stand your ground. But - as we all have to live our lifes - itis always your decission.
YOU ned to be the one who can deal with anything taht comes your way. ((HUGS)) and good luck.
Glad you stand your ground. But - as we all have to live our lifes - itis always your decission.
YOU ned to be the one who can deal with anything taht comes your way. ((HUGS)) and good luck.
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
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