needing help guys please!
Suggest she come here to OH and read a little or ask any questions she has for people that have had surgery. We could sure tell her about our quality of life before and after surgery.
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((((StacyAnn)))),
My mother wasn't 'financing' my surgery, but was really worried about it and concerned. I chose a ASMBS Center of Excellence and while there are other good choices, there are a lot of good reasons to do this. It was with Duke University who has other diet programs that are very, very well know and well regarded. That said, the surgery program there is very active. There are many reasons for this, but primarily it is because of the long term weight loss maintenance the occurs with bariatric surgery. It is not 'fail safe' or 'full proof', but it is statistically much more successful. Other weight loss methods, statistically have a 3 to 5 percent success rate. This means that 5 years after losing the weight, only 3 to 5 percent of the patients have maintained that weight loss. See this link. At this time, the statistics are showing that approximately 80 percent of RNY gastric bypass patients maintain their loss. This is both exciting and sobering because it means you have an 80% chance that you'll lose it and keep it off and a 20% chance you won't. When very public figures, such as Carnie Wilson aren't able to maintain their loss it makes many think why risk it? Well, there are a number issues that need to be addressed. One of which is the behavior modification/psych component that cannot be underestimated, but using that alone would not be enough for me or many others. While you have the restriction and malabsorption pushing you forward in the first year or so, you will always have the restriction to help you. However, if you have underlying eating behavior issues you do not address and learn to manage, you can find that you will experience regain.
Those were regain issues where a lot of what concerned my mother. Then everyone knows of someone who knows someone who had a nightmare. That can be true of any surgery and especially when you are not in the best of health when approaching surgery.
I had my mother come with me to my appointments and welcomed her to ask any questions that concerned her. It really did help to alleviate her concerns and the strain that caused our relationship. Don't get me wrong, she was still worried.
After I lost my weight, she said she was sooooo pleased for me and wished that she had done it herself when she had to opportunity.
It can be life changing, but it needs to entered into in a whole person program that will support your physical, dietary and psych needs as you lose the weight and learn new coping mechanisms.
I hope that this helps some.
Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145
Your weight loss history is the same as mine: lose some, gain more. We suffer from a real
live medical problem: it's called Metabolic Syndrome. It's what happens when we do yo-yo
dieting for years and years, and completely mess up our endocrine systems.
Our weight impacts our entire systems. What co-morbidities do you have? I had Diabetes II,
High Blood Pressure (uncontrolled w/meds), stress incontinence, pain in ankles, knees, and
hips. I had to seriously decide how badly I needed to go to the bathroom before I got up out
of my chair. If you have any of these things, tell your mother and ask her how much longer
she wants you to suffer like this, because you aren't living, you are just surviving.
I strongly agree that having her go to a support group meeting or two will help to convince her.
My own mother was anti-WLS, but she passed away before I could undertake the arduous
task of changing her "OKie Stubborn" mind. I do know that she would have been very glad
to see how my life has changed since the surgery.
If your mother won't fund you, do you have other options? Can you do a loan or Credit card
for it?
Wishing you the best.