Everything has turned--honest opinions

In a nutshell my surgery date is September 23. I have thought about the surgery for four years. I've spent the better part of the past two years on paperwork, getting off of Diet Coke etc.
My husband and friends that I shared this journey with were on board too until 3 weeks ago.

My husband has been diagnosed with moderate Alzheimers-not even sure if I know how to spell that word correctly--he's only 57! My husband still wants me to have the surgery for health reasons and because he believes that it will just help my overall self, not to mention being lighter might help with the back pain issues from a car accident. He's adamant that I have this surgery if it's what I WANT to do.  He's perfectly fine when we're traveling, hanging out etc. I believe he's able to take care of me during the early weeks and he does too. It's my friends who are freaking out. I'm a strong woman and am capable when push comes to shove, but I know I'll need some help.

The friend that has said that I should cancel the surgery had WLS about 6 years ago. She had never had surgery of any kind and to be frank, she adores being waited on hand and foot. I have had many surgeries related to female issues, and prefer to be left alone. Please bring the pain meds when required, don't chat just stick me in a box somewhere until I feel human again.

I haven't told my family about the WLS because they scoff at people who have it. The few times I would broach the subject, why would anybody blah, blah blah so I just kept it limited to those that I can trust. I am however planning on being honest when point blank asked but not prior, I don't have time for the negativity.

I wouldn't hesitate to cancel if I thought my husband couldn't take care of me as far as bringing me meds, water, mushies and such. I also have a couple of my son's friends that are starving college students as they call themselves that would be able to sit and assist if needed. I've mentioned to them about hiring an "assistant" lol, little do they know it's not paperwork, just movies, water, meds and protein.

Thoughts? I've been reading about hernias, gall bladders and other items which do make me stop and think twice. Anybody have the surgery that had no outside support other than hired nurses? Would you do it again? After all the years and so, so very, very close and this pops up!

I had open and I didn't really need any help. If your husband is still ok, and it sounds like he is, I don't know why you wouldn't go ahead with it. Get healthier and enjoy these next few years.

I'm so sorry about his diagnosis. Seems like Alzheimers i****ting more people in their 50's and that blows

good luck, Judi

Judi,
Get healthier and enjoy these years! Thank you for those words, they are now written down on my reasons to have the surgery list.

I was shocked to find out just how many people in their 50's are diagnosed. There are people in their late 30's-which just blew what was left of my mind during that first meeting.

Thank you.

 Honestly you don't need anyone to take care of you.  When I got home from the hospital I was exhausted and in pain but no one helped me do anything I went to the bathroom on my own I got my meds on my own and food.. you have to get up and walk around anyway you can't just lay there.. so you don't need to rely on anyone for anything.  Sure it's nice to have someone to help you but don't let that be a deciding factor.  If you had small chidlren things would be different because you wouldn't feel like doing their day to day care for a week or so but since you don't I wouldn't even worry about it!

There are possible complications like hernias and gall bladder ect.  but think of all the possible complications you can have by being obese? The surgery is worth it.  And if you are going to need to care for your husband in the future it will be a lot easier on you if you're not having your own health issues with regards to your weight.

good luck.