In the beginning, I only told a select few and have gradually told the people I feel need to know. Some are supportive and others ask why I don't try to do it without the surgery. When they ask me that, I tell them I have done that too many times to count and every time have gained the weight and then some back. They are not always receptive to that answer but for the most part, the people I work closest to are very supportive, not to mention my family. I hope I helped by giving you my situation.
There really is no right or wrong way to handle this issue. It's a very personal decision and choice. I was like the poster that proceeded me. I told a select few that I trusted before and told more with time. Whenever I'm asked, I am frank about it. I let them know that this is considered decision made with my health care providers. That said, honestly, it's no one's business but your own. While you do need to let your HR department and management know that you will be out of the office for a surgical procedure, they do not NEED to know why. It is my experience, both personally and hearing the comments of many in my support group, that while some my 'disapprove' many, many more are supportive. Many people that they find support that they never knew that they would have after they let people know of their WLS.
Most people are concerned about sharing this information because they are concerned that people with have negative bias against it. You also need to know that there will be a certain number of people that knew someone else who did this and 'failed' (i.e., regained) or had complications. You need to know that a percentage of WLS patients experience regain and complications. The percentage that experience regain, generally have behavioral issues that are unresolved, but if you let your friends and coworkers know you may find that they will provide you with additional support. Regarding complications, there are possible complications that come any surgery, but gastric bypass doesn't have a higher complication rate than those who have had their gall bladder removed. All in all, the public perception of failures and complications is generally widely exaggerated.
This is your journey and your own private business, so do what you are most comfortable doing and understand that what you are comfortable with now may change with time and experience... and that is okay too.
Wishing you all the best,
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
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