"How much have you lost"

Winnie_the_Pooh
on 2/26/12 6:29 am

I am continually surprised by people (usually ladies at church or co-workers) that I don't know that well who will come up to me and ask how much I have lost. I usually say thanks for noticing. But I really don't want to say, 100 lbs. because I still have 70 to lose. I am also not that comfortable saying none of your business. I have avoided answering a few times but it is happening more and more frequently.

Winnie

cindybogge
on 2/26/12 6:35 am

RNY on 12/12/11

my sister in law in the past year has lost 100 lbs. via weigh****chers. she got tired of people asking her and made her answer 25 lbs. and a smile every time they'd ask. Eventually people got tired of getting the same repetitive answer and they quit asking!

Winnie_the_Pooh
on 2/26/12 6:47 am

RNY on 06/08/11

Thanks, I was thinking of sticking with "over 50" since I would assume that is obvious but a better answer than being non-committal or evasive.

I will be attending functions during the Lenten season where most of the people haven't seen me since surgery so, we will see what happens. I have even had men ask me how much I want to lose. To that I just return a blank stare. The wife usually intervenes at that point and tells him that it was an inappropriate question.

Winnie

Arieschick33
on 2/26/12 6:58 am - Lusby, MD

RNY on 01/17/12

I'm only 5 weeks out but I am already tired of that question! It's so rude! I know people don't mean to be, but that is a really personal question. It makes me feel like my progress is being graded by them. I think it's something I am going to have to live with though, at least they noticed!!!

(deactivated member)
on 2/26/12 7:09 am - Boston, MA

RNY on 03/14/11

I hate when people ask how much have a lost then follow up with a how much more do you want to lose... like they are adding it up!!! I don't mind saying I have lost 150 lbs but when they ask how much more I just say I'm almost there... Another annoying question is what size do you want to get to? I have no idea what size I will be I have never been this thin before!!! People are so rude sometimes, I would never ask someone how much they weigh or what size they are. How about a simple YOU LOOK GREAT?????

exohexoh
on 2/26/12 7:16 am - West Chester, PA

RNY on 09/27/10

to the how much more or what size, i always just say i don't know yet. people seem to be okay with that answer

<3 jen <3

<3 starting weight: 252 <3 goal weight: 135 <3 current weight: 151 <3

RNY: 9/27/10 <3 Extended Tummy Tuck w/hip & thigh lipo: 6/6/13

rsassyjackie
on 2/26/12 12:27 pm - MA

Hi there! Can't help notice u had ur surgery at BI by Dr,Schneider. I too had my GBS done there 2/13/12. I wonder if I could ask u some questions if u don't mind? I promise not to ask how much have u lost or how much more do you want to loose! LOL--Jackie

(deactivated member)
on 2/26/12 10:06 pm - Boston, MA

RNY on 03/14/11

LOL ask away, PM me. Not too many of us from BI on here!

exohexoh
on 2/26/12 7:15 am - West Chester, PA

RNY on 09/27/10

i don't mind when people i'm close to ask (like my good friends and my close relatives and stuff). what really bothered me, more than i thought it would, was my dad's side of the family who hasn't seen me in nearly a year said nothing about my loss or looking good or anything at my brother's wedding last week. my mom's family on the other hand, that i see all the time, and my dad's one sister that lives close to my parents make a fuss everytime i see them and it makes me feel uncomfortable but good at the same time.

<3 jen <3

<3 starting weight: 252 <3 goal weight: 135 <3 current weight: 151 <3

RNY: 9/27/10 <3 Extended Tummy Tuck w/hip & thigh lipo: 6/6/13

poet_kelly
on 2/26/12 7:31 am - OH

RNY on 11/04/08

I usually just say "a lot!"

Kelly

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