1 week post op and can eat and drink everything

 That pink on pink is much too difficult to read so I gave up after reading the statement that she wasn't following the band rules when she had the lap band!  Yet the problem now, only a week out after RNY, when she has "only" tried as much as 2 cups of food at one time (it makes my tummy hurt just thinking about it!) is that something is wrong with the mechanics of the surgery.  Ok, whatever.

Lora

On a higher note, it's really important for all of the serious posters on this forum to remember one thing. The majority of you that post routinely and responsibly are providing invaluable insight and support to those like me who have used this sight for a long time to research, gain information, and to make informed decisions. For example, I chose to "shop" for the right surgeon. I could have jumped at the first guy I talked to, but on advise from this group I found myself attending multiple information sessions until I found the surgeon that DEMANDED compliance, education and a serious attitude toward being healthy for a lifetime. My surgeon advised me to join THIS community.

And...I'm grateful that I did. This is a great community and I'm going to have great results and all of you have been, and are going to remain, an important part of this journey.

I have surgery one week from today and although I'm anxious, I would be absolutely freaking out right now if it wasn't for all of the excellent advice and support that I receive daily on OH. For example, I am now on my pre-op diet and I slipped last night and at some of my son's Hamburger Helper. Not good, I know. But without this forum I would have beaten myself up and went on a three week eating out binge. I am now in enough control that I can analyze why I did that, forgive myself, and keep moving forward with the pre-op diet. I've learned a lot about myself and have gained a lot of respect for what it is that I'm doing and the difficulties that will arise if I disrespect this process. This road that we are on doesn't end once the surgery is completed. The surgery is just one stop along the road side. There is significant work to be done pre-op, post-op, in maintenance, and when our "vehicle" breaks down and we lose control, we have to be able to get back on our road and continue moving forward. I've learned that from all of you. I was a guy that would NEVER have gone to counseling, but I do now because I need it. I go to support meetings at my surgeon's office, I attend Overeaters Anonymous, I cut my hours at work. I've done these things because of what I've learned from this community.

I am thoroughly impressed that with the outragious post that was put out there that this community still tried to help and still tried to get this person on the right track. It saddens me that some of you were "attacked" and called names after trying to provide help. Don't let that discourage you. Each of you contribute to the well-being of people like me in significant ways every day.

Kudos to all of you. Lives are saved on this forum and nobody should forget that.

Thanks,

Mike

People like YOU are why I continue to post here.  I will not even entertain the hot mess this original poster is.  Her needs are far out of the reach of anything I could help....only serious professional therapy can fix that.

Best wishes on your journey and let me know if I can help in any way.

Kim

This is not normal. You are self-sabataging yourself. I think you should seek mental help. No way in hell I would have risked eating that much so early out.

No you are not broken.  You have no nerves so you can't feel full.  Your body is not healed yet and for your own health you need to stop eating solid foods and go back to soft foods.  Also, so you don't harm your body or destroy your pouch you need to measure your food so that you can limit your intake.  It sounds like you are going through a lot of stressful stuff right now with work and your pet.  I am sure we can all attest to ignoring our own needs when things in our lives cause us to stress and worry.  I also know that many people do not respond to helpful advice when given in a tough love manner.  Some people stop listening to the advice and become defensive about the approach.  I am not going to do that.  I am going to say that I can see why you went off track, life got in the way.  But, you paid for and had this surgery for a reason and I am assuming its because you wanted to improve your health and appearance. I also no that not all doctors give necessary information to their patients because they have left it up to patient to be their own advocate.  Now take the time to learn about your surgery and how to best use the tool the doctor has given you.  On all menu's, I have learned, there are healthy options for use bypass patients to eat.  Find those foods and choose them every time.  For right now you might want to pass up the wine and ask for water with a lemon; it's your choice.  When you are caught in a situation that doesn't allow you to make healthy choices do as I do, keep healthy food snacks in your purse or car along with a case of water so that you always have choice at hand.  Your mind and your occupation is telling you to eat but your body is not.  You may also want to look up a local OA meeting it has been very helpful for me.  Good luck.

 I just want to clarify as I was having a panic attack yesterday about whether the surgery was working and was not clear in my post. 

1) the 2 cups of food I had was soup and crackers. Have been on puréed stage since hospital, but doctor didn't limit my portions at this phase. He said the pouch would limit it for me and it wasn't. 

2) when I want advice about my smoking I will ask for it. That was not mentioned in my post for that reason. If someone wants to look at my profile pics and see I am smoking, fine. I know what I need to do right now with my smoking and am following my doctors advice regarding that plan. For reasons I don't care to go into, all of my doctors have recommended I not quit. It is too risky for me medically at this point due to a medical condition that only a few doctors understand to quit. But getting to where I can quit safely is a priority for my medical team. 

3) I should never have come here seeking medical or nutritional advice. That's what my doctors are for. 

4) follow up from surgeon indicates that me being able to consume 2 cups of soup and crackers does not indicate anything other than I am ready for soft foods. He had me try to see carefully how much I could eat of soft foods. I chose a boiled egg and found that I could just barely eat a medium one. So, stomach is working correctly. 

5) it's a silly thing to be worried about not having diarrhea, ESP because I had it this morning. As I stated I was having a panic attack with unnecessary fears about my surgery being broken. 

Apparently the hormones flooding through my body 7 days after surgery, made me have a mini breakdown, certain all was doom and gloom.

Thankfully I had some great supportive posts that helped ease some of my anxiety.

And finally, my surgeon sees no problem with me having a glass of wine 3xs per week, if it doesn't make me sick. And it doesn't. I also notice there is no increase to its intoxicating effects.

I will continue to have faith in my medical team and my surgeon that if any of this needs to change they will let me know.

I'm glad all is ok but reading your original post, responses to other post and then this last post,  I'm sorry I just can't follow you.  1+2 is not adding up to 3.  Good luck .

 Sorry for confusion. Yesterday was a crazy day. I lost a mother dog and have been up for 48 hrs bottle feeding the pups (3 days old). A couple of them stopped breathing on me last night and I had to rush them to vet. Posts were made at vets office waiting to find out if pups could be saved. 

My most recent post is intended to clear up the miscommunications and confusion of what going without sleep can do. Thankfully vet kept pups for me last night so I could rest. And make more sense today.

That piece of information does help.  Again I'm glad that all is well.

I think you need to see your surgeon asap.

While yes there may be some behavior issues going on here, NONE OF US was very together in the beginning and nearly ALL OF US leaned on our restriction to force behavior modification in the beginning.

If for some reason your tool is not doing that for you, that doesn't make you a bad or deviant person per se. It does, however, mean you are in need of medical attention.

If you've not already made the appointment, make it now! And tell your surgical staff the same thing you just told us.