Dealing with a food nazi at home
he's been very quiet since then. good luck to you! i hate people in my business more than anything on earth!
My mother and my sister occasionally ask me if I can eat something, but it's more that they are worried something will have too much sugar and make me sick. If I tell them I can eat something, they take my word for it.
Have you told your husband to knock it off? Have you told him that you are following the advice of your surgeon and dietician and do not need him to yell at you or try to control you?
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
"For I know the Plans I have for you" ...Jeremiah 29:11
What I wanted to say, though, is that the behavior the OP describes, with her husband yelling at her, telling her is is failing, and attempting to control her, is verbally and emotionally abusive. Maybe he does love her, but verbal and emotional abuse is not a good way to show love. And maybe he does think she needs to be abused, but most people realize that abuse is not helpful to anyone.
Personally, I would not have a lot of patience with someone that was abusing me verbally and/or emotionally.
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
I think that if this is new behavior on the husband's part, I think it is possible that it is motivated by fear. This surgery does a number on us, but our loved ones also go through a lot. My husband is very supportive, but he can sometimes demonstrate controlling behaviors. Given that he's a catastrophic thinker, it's often a part of his fear that we'll all die and abandon him or that he will die. Usually the trigger is something minor, but in order to help him deal with his fear, I have to figure out what the trigger was. Then, I have the pleasure? of listening to him complain about everything else in his life, and then, it's always about death. These are very exhausting days.
"For I know the Plans I have for you" ...Jeremiah 29:11
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
I live by myself and I talk to my mom who lives 2 provinces away daily and she keeps telling me that her doctor (who was my GP as a child) told her to tell me not to stretch my pouch. She reminds me now like 5 times a week. It's so frustrating, I mean I am less than a month out, I clearly wouldn't be intentionally setting myself up for failure after subjecting myself to surgery now would I??!
Hang in there, friend!
b
Good luck with your frustration SkinnyDipper - you shall prevail and you shall win! Keep smiling and thanks for being 'real'.
Nancy