The Ups and Downs Of Life
It's been a rough couple of months for me. I ended a 4 year relationship with my alcoholic fiance. Since then things have really been on a downhill slide for me.
The good news is that I haven't turned to food for comfort. Bad news is I am on the verge of an eating disorder (anorexia). Even prior to surgery during times of stress and anxiety I wouldn't eat. So I guess I can't blame this on the WLS. It's just the way I deal. Anyway, I have realized this is not healthy and have reached out to the psychologist at my surgeons clinic and am working with him. I am scheduled to see a dietitian at an eating disorders clinic and will start seeing a therapist there.
I guess I am putting this out there for everyone to see because even at 3 years out **** happens and it's important to get help before it really gets out of hand. I never would have thought I would be battling issues like this.....formerly morbidly obese to not eating but apparently it is a fairly common issue in the community.
There is no shame in seeking help and if you are struggling too ask for help. I think too many times we like to think after surgery it's all rainbows and unicorns but it's not.
Wishing the best to all of you.
Christy
The good news is that I haven't turned to food for comfort. Bad news is I am on the verge of an eating disorder (anorexia). Even prior to surgery during times of stress and anxiety I wouldn't eat. So I guess I can't blame this on the WLS. It's just the way I deal. Anyway, I have realized this is not healthy and have reached out to the psychologist at my surgeons clinic and am working with him. I am scheduled to see a dietitian at an eating disorders clinic and will start seeing a therapist there.
I guess I am putting this out there for everyone to see because even at 3 years out **** happens and it's important to get help before it really gets out of hand. I never would have thought I would be battling issues like this.....formerly morbidly obese to not eating but apparently it is a fairly common issue in the community.
There is no shame in seeking help and if you are struggling too ask for help. I think too many times we like to think after surgery it's all rainbows and unicorns but it's not.
Wishing the best to all of you.
Christy
(((((((Christy))))))) I can so totally relate....I am glad you have sought counseling and are paying it forward by sharing with us.. It is tough.. Dealing with stress is no joke and like you I just cannot eat through it and I had this very same reaction prior to surgery also.
I have had to press through stress with a triple effort to eat and when that fails I have had to resort to forcing myself into drinking my protein/meals in an effort to keep my body nourished..we have major stressors in the family right now with my dear RL sister who has been a non smoker for life and a well known physician battling bilateral advanced lung CA which was diagnosed a few months back in an otherwise healthy woman without a weight issue or a care in the world except taking care of the sick children at a children's hospital ... imagine going from coughing and thinking 'cold, allergies' to cancer... We are a close knit family even when they are overseas and I am I the USA...
((((((Hugs)))))))) Take care of yourself as you press through this period of loss/separation ...continue to reach out and seek counseling ...and remind yourself to eat/drink... Do it for yourself, your health and your loved ones...press on my beautiful sista!
I have had to press through stress with a triple effort to eat and when that fails I have had to resort to forcing myself into drinking my protein/meals in an effort to keep my body nourished..we have major stressors in the family right now with my dear RL sister who has been a non smoker for life and a well known physician battling bilateral advanced lung CA which was diagnosed a few months back in an otherwise healthy woman without a weight issue or a care in the world except taking care of the sick children at a children's hospital ... imagine going from coughing and thinking 'cold, allergies' to cancer... We are a close knit family even when they are overseas and I am I the USA...
((((((Hugs)))))))) Take care of yourself as you press through this period of loss/separation ...continue to reach out and seek counseling ...and remind yourself to eat/drink... Do it for yourself, your health and your loved ones...press on my beautiful sista!
RNY 2/5/07 no regain having implemented lifestyle changes....
Hugs. I do understant.
When I had days I did not wanted to eat - I made sure that I drank protein shakes. I know my body can deal with me not eating solid foods but I knew I needed proteins, some fat, liquids and vitamins.
I am glad you taking care of yourself. (Hugs)
When I had days I did not wanted to eat - I made sure that I drank protein shakes. I know my body can deal with me not eating solid foods but I knew I needed proteins, some fat, liquids and vitamins.
I am glad you taking care of yourself. (Hugs)
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
OH2012
on 9/2/12 4:50 pm - OH
on 9/2/12 4:50 pm - OH
The title of your post is so true. Life certainly does have up and downs. Hoping that you can climb to a peaceful plateau - of health and happiness.
Stay encouraged!!!
Stay encouraged!!!
The loss of a of 4 year relationship is tough. That's a lot of grief even if it's want you wanted.
I'm glad you are reaching out for help.
I've been reaching out since January. I got a kidney transplant this year and also lost my mother. Lots of grief and stress and changes. WLS doesn't change that fact that we gotta get through our life.
I hope things get better for you soon.
Deb T
I'm glad you are reaching out for help.
I've been reaching out since January. I got a kidney transplant this year and also lost my mother. Lots of grief and stress and changes. WLS doesn't change that fact that we gotta get through our life.
I hope things get better for you soon.
Deb T
I'm sorry you are having such a hard time, my friend. A couple of years ago, I ended a relationship of several years that had become unhealthy, so I understand the complex emotions surrounding this. (I wanted to eat, though.)
Good for you for focusing on being healthy and getting help right away. Hopefully seeking help early will make it easier to get back on a healthy track.
Lora
Good for you for focusing on being healthy and getting help right away. Hopefully seeking help early will make it easier to get back on a healthy track.
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
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