My surgeon made me cry today at my pre-op appt
I like that he's so straightforward, but it made me cry that he was questioning my commitment and potential. Bottom line - I can't fail at this, and his uncertainty made me question myself. I'm hoping he was just trying to scare me into compliance.
Many surgeons do not set goal weights, which is probably best since it does impact some people with how they perceive their surgery success. My surgeon did set a goal weight and I looked at him like he was crazy, that number didn't even seem imaginable. Well I did hit his goal weight.
I DO believe you should set a personal goal based on weight or size that is REASONABE and OBTAINABLE. A normal BMI shouldn't be the driving force IMO; we
all know how those charts are antiquated.
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There maybe other factors as to why you didnt loose any weight. i didnt loose any weight during the 6 months w/a dietician but i gained 10 lbs. Have you gone to see your family dr for your clearance. Not sure if you will need it but my insurance required that i get clearance from my Family Dr and it came out that my Thyroid levels were 3 X's over the normal levels. Which is partly why i didnt loose any weight but gained and i also did stick to my diet. It sux that after you do so much you still dont loose any weight. It also discourages you but no worries, im sure everything will turn around for you.
Im scheduled to have my surgery on Thursday, November 8th... Yeah... im excited
I guess, bottom line is: he's still going to do the surgery either way, and I can just prove my commitment to it on the other side now. All of my pre-op requirements are done now - I won't be back to the hospital until surgery day!
Good luck with your surgery - hope your doctor is nicer.
I got so depressed that I started eating breakfast and lunch and a snack. Normally I really only ate dinner. By eating during the day my sugar levels evened out (still to high tho) and the weight started coming off. Then I started avoiding carbs and the weight came off quickly. Four months later the surgeons office called to see if I was interested in coming in for an appt to discuss RNY surgery. I said yep and when I went in he gave me a date for my RNY.
I knew I couldn't keep it off on my own. To this day carbs are still my downfall.
Try atkins or some other low carb plan. You will be amazed how well you will do. You have to decide you really want this. You will have to eat this way post surgery so why not get used to doing it now?
Good luck, remember this surgery is only a tool. Our success or failure is based on how well we use the tool!!!!
It sounds as if your surgeon is putting the emphasis on being healthy, which is a good thing. He may not be particularly deft at communication. Please try not to let this conversation devastate you.
ETA: my surgeon doesn't set a goal weight. I decided my goal on my own.
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Most surgeons like their RNY patients to lose a decent amount of wt prior to surgery. There is a surgical aspect to this preference, as the wt loss just prior to surgery greatly helps remove fatty liver deposits. If the fatty liver deposits are substantial, then it makes the LAP RNY difficult for the surgeon. I did lose about 27 pounds in the 3 weeks prior to my surgery. Then, in the surgery room, I had to sign a form acknowledging I was there for LAP RNY but "if conditions warranted" I gave my consent to an OPEN RNY procedure. DAVE
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