WHY are so rules easy to follow, but some are so HARD???

I'm so frustrated. I'm 2 years post op. I absolutely do not drink when I eat. I do not drink alchol, not any at all since my surgery. So, WHY, WHY, WHY are soda and sweets my downfall? The others, i just told myself those are the rules, and I haven't even considered breaking them. Sugar and soda I find myself partaking of on a regular basis. I'll get on the wagon and do good for a week or so, then I fall off and BAM! get run over by the wagon. I just don't know how to get my brain and belly to get in sync. LOL

I had a lap band in 2007 and converted this week.  That was my downfall........Diet Coke.  My original doctor said don't EVER drink anything carbonated.  I didn't for a couple of years then I went to a new doctor who said "sure you can in moderation".  Well we know none of us does anything in moderation.  I don't know how much I stretched but I quit losing and starting gaining.  Plus I found that whenever I sat down with a soda, I looked for something to go with it, chips, peanuts, crackers.  This time I intend to stay away from it.  Hopefully someday I'll be able to do an occasional but for now that's not the plan.

The sweets I have very little self control at this point.  Hopefully I can relearn that.

happygrandma, good luck with your new surgery. I don' t know why I ever started drinking diet soda again. I just love the stuff. I just don't understand why I can tell myself " I can not drink alchol" and never even think twice about doing it. but with soda I just can't say NO. I've just got to try harder to resist that particular temptation.

Actually, MANY of us not only can eat/drink in moderation, but actually do better with moderation than total deprivation.  It's about what works for you as an individual. 

Also, soda does NOT stretch your pouch no matter how much you drink.   To do so would defy the laws of physics. If you gained weight drinking diet soda it is because you ate too many of the foods it made you crave, not because soda stretched your pouch.

Lora

Almost everyone gets tired of the rules and dieting after two years.  Regain starts to happen for most of us at about two and a half years out.  The intestines learn to absorb calories again, we can eat more at one time, dumping usually has ended by then and the whole new food and exercise plan just gets boring.  I found that I felt better when I allowed the Diet Coke back, but after a while it lead to other rule breaking and I did not feel good.  I gave it up again for a long time and now am able to drink in moderation.  I have a bottle once a day at work, so five bottles or so a week.

It does not stretch the pouch.  It does seem to lead to eating sweets, chips, and other foods that I normally avoid.

I know that Diet Coke are my :gateway drug: and just can;t go there. Really...I can't.  They do a numbr on my head.  I don't even do caffeine.  So I get what you are saying.   When you say that you are eating sweet.s  What do eat and what happens when you do....are you out of control eating or just simply eating more than you should.?  Please let us know.... 

I personally drink diet coke and diet sodas in moderation.  Sometimes it gives me a bit of gas and I can go days without it but sometimes I have it.  As long as its done this way, I feel comfortable with my decision.  In the past, like on a diet, I would deprive myself of things like chocolate, candy, sweets, chips and sodas and then binge on them as soon as I decided that I would be done dieting.  Regain would follow and I'd gain all my weight back twice as fast as I lost it, plus an additional 20 lbs.  Years of yo-yo dieting and crash diets wrecked my metabolism prior to wls.   This is for life for me so I enjoy all those things (and alcohol) in moderation.

This works for me.  I'm not telling anyone to do this, but its what works best for me. 

Mallisa

Some people can handle moderation and others can not. I know that I am one of those that cannot when it comes to Diet Coke. I truly believe that I was/am an addict. I call myself "in recovery" as if I were an alcoholic. I am not saying that in a humorous way at all. I am/was addicted as others are alcoholic or drug addicted. Alcoholics cannot drink alcohol in moderation.....that is part of the disease. There must be something in the Diet Coke that I am not able to handle in moderation, so I am "on the wagon".

I, too, had a problem. I was a 6-10 can/bottle a day habit. For me, I know it is all or nothing. So, I have to choose nothing on the diet coke. No clue what it is about it either...

I totally feel this way I drank anywhere from 64 oz to a 100 oz daily sometimes. So the best thing for me is to just say no to it. So far it's been ok and I have energy so I'm copi g with not having it