Please someone help
I doubt many on here can give you advice on a revision, but if you are having problems, we might can offer some solutions and support to help you accept the new you. I am one that would never tell anybody what they need to with their body. It's certainly your decision, but like your surgeon suggested, time may give you a different perspective 2 months from now.
Please share some of your issues and maybe we can help. Also do not be afraid to seek counseling for some of your issues. I have been there and done that with the antidepressants to prove it.
I hope everything works out for you.
You are only 2 weeks out and currently at the worst part of your journey. The first month or two sucks and you're probably in pain, but after that it gets better. I am a year postop and have never been happier. A lot of people early out think they made a mistake but once the pain is gone and they're able to eat regular foods they realize it was the best choice they ever made. I know it was for me. Just take it easy, follow your surgeon's plan, and be patient. It takes time to get used to, but its for the best. Before you know it you'll be eating solids and buying smaller clothes. Just give it some time. If necessary ask your doctor about anti-depressants and possibly seeing a therapist. A lot of people seek therapy postop. Its nothing to be ashamed of.
I think we all felt this way at some point and many points. the first weeks are HARD. You do feel isolated, tired, hungry, cranky, bored with the same shakes etc. It helped me to get out and walk a little. outside if it was nice or in a mall on bad weather days. The progression in diet seems to take forever. My surgeon is very conservative, so it was 8 weeks before I could attempt a "regular" diet. I am 5 months out now and lost 62 pounds. I feel so much better. the surgery pains are long gone, and it is so much easier to move and more comfortable to sit with my legs crossed! I still have days when I am down about what I did. Some days I feel like I will never feel like a :normal" person who can go out to eat "normal" food. But when I look back on how far i have come in 5 months I realize that things are getting better every day. There are things I can eat now that I couldnt just 4 weeks ago. My progress may be a little slow but I am progressing. My husband asked me last week if I was glad I had the surgery, and I really cant say yes or no. Yes, I am thrilled with the loss and the new clothes I can buy in regular stores. But I was such a sweets person, loved to bake, and the thought of not enjoying a birthday cake ever again in hard for me. I guess what I am saying is please dont get discouraged, give it some time. It will get easier and you will feel better. I promise.
I PROMISE PROMISE PROMISE it gets better.
Do you have a psychiatrist? Maybe you could get some anti-depressant and/or anti-anxiety meds? I have depression and frequent anxiety attacks, and if it wasn't for Prozac, Wellbutrin, and the occasional Ativan I'd be a basket case.
Very soon you'll be eating normal food and feeling better. I PROMISE.
Another suggestion: find something to distract yourself. Funny TV shows. A lightweight, fun book (or a heavier book if that will distract you better.) Knitting. Something to keep your mind busy.
- Barb, who is at GOOOOOOAAAAAAL!
HW: 274 SW: 244 GW: 137 CW: 137!
Keep on swimming! Keep on swimming!
I see we live near each other. I just sent you a PM with my phone number. Call me if you want some in-person support!
- Barb, who is at GOOOOOOAAAAAAL!
HW: 274 SW: 244 GW: 137 CW: 137!
Keep on swimming! Keep on swimming!