Not happy with the weight loss at all!

Judge if you must i am on a rant today going through as much as i have and showing not even a lousy 80 lbs in 9 months is disheartening. I feel like i lost more quickly when i did this by myself. Again in another stall maybe it's permanent down nothing and actually gained 3 lbs in 3 weeks now... scale has only moved up and not down with no relief in sight. Am i happier at my current weight then 401 lbs OF COURSE! But i am not happy all i had to go through and what i have to show for it. I lost more weight pre-op by myself with the help of a nutritionist then post-op with major stomach surgery. And all of the complications to go along with it. I am a failure i should have known i would be the one who would end up failing this surgery. I am happy for all of you i really am but i am really mad at myself. I should have and should be doing much better than 79.6 lbs lost in 9 months. I am averaging less than 10 lbs a month with LOTS of stalls and temporary gains. Sorry i had to vent... easier to tell me everything is ok unless you are going through or feeling what i am right now

Your weight loss has been slower than some and I understand being frustrated  I imagine all the complications you've had have had something to do with the slower weight loss.

Did you lose more than 80 lbs before surgery, just working with a nutritionist?  How much more did you lose and how long did it take you?  How long were you able to keep it off?

Kelly i lost 104 lbs from April 2011 to Jan 2013. So not even 2 years to lose over 100 lbs. I did about 80 lbs in 9 months but i also had major surgery in which i has assumed the weight would fly off with my help of course. I get in all my protein and pushing my fluids hard i don't get what i am doing wrong. I couldn't even exercise if i wanted too.. i eat so little i would end up in negative calories every day plus my back is hurting me bad lately so i do what i can.  The benefit i have is not feeling hungry and fuller quicker. I just don't get it at all.

OK, according to my math,  before surgery you lost 104 lbs in 20 months, which works out to an average of 5.2 pounds per month.  And since surgery you lost 80 lbs in nine months which works out to 8.8 lbs per month.  So you are actually losing faster after surgery than before.

It doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong.  It just sounds like the weight loss is not as fast as you'd like.  I understand why you feel that way.  But that doesn't mean you're a failure or that surgery isn't working for you.  You are losing weight, and losing it faster than you lost it before surgery.  And I'm pretty sure it's going to be much easier to keep it off than it was before surgery, too.

I do think that those who lose appreciably pre-op (and you were a champion at that) lose slower than those of us who didn't lose prior to surgery.    Most of us have a very rapid phase of losing (first few months) and then things slow up a bit month by month.   You had had your large weight loss before surgery so it makes sense that your loss since has been more steady.  

An average of 10lbs a month is absolutely on track and non one loses a set amount a day, a week or a month.   We all lose in fits and starts!   I can say I NEVER had a stall because I rarely weighed myself - I just got to my goal in 6 months - I have no idea how I did it, but I'm sure I didn't lose 20lbs exactly every month!

You still have some way to go, I get that, but you have plenty of time to do so ...   You just have to do what you know you have to do!

 

You may need to up your calories a little. I stalled about this far out and it didn't move until I upped my calories. I don't understand how it works but sometimes a little change in diet helps.

Just so you know, This is my Opinion , You do not have to be sorry for venting, that is one of the reasons we are here. I am not at your point yet since I am only less than 2 weeks out. But, I know what we all went through, I am still at the beginning stage.
But I do see someone that is VERY VERY hard on themselves. I do not see 80 lbs in 9 lbs as failure. You sure did not gain this weight over 9 months. If I may, are you working out also? Following what the Dr plans is? I have read a lot where there are stalls. I will not be one that says everything is going to be ok, but I will tell you this. You have already put yourself through the surgery, so why not take all the energy of feeling like a failure and get out there and walk, Exercise. What ever it is you can do.

I know what you mean. I lost a lot before my surgery, and my weight loss has been slow. I don't know exactly what the numbers are but I kind of stalled after about 80 pounds.  I had a three year stall prior to surgery, and I was doing EVERYTHING they said to do and the wright did not budge. I think some of my meds slowed my metabolism, based on side effects...constipation, inability to sweat, stuff like that doesn't work it wouldn't surprise me if fat burning wasn't working either.  When my weight is stuck, it's hard to be grateful that at least it's not going UP anymore, and with the surgery, it probably won't go UP.  I hear your frustration though, and really wish I could do something to make it better. Hang in there. Sending good thoughts your way.

Hang in with us slow losers and you will get where you want to be. Can you imagine yourself nearly at ones e Fla n d when you were at 401? You are close to it. I hear your back hurts but you may be able to do some exercise like swimming or recumbent biking. I know how frustrating slow losers can be but it is better than no loss at all. 

I think you might need to eat more.  You still need calories to fuel your body and though I am not a fan of "starvation mode" you can screw up your metabolism.  Also if you have complications and your body has to build cells to heal, that becomes its number one priority.

If starving yourself isn't working fast enough for you, then up your calories and at least try to get in a little physical activity.  You will probably feel better.

80 pounds is 80 pounds closer to YOUR goal... no matter how slow you are moving, you are still moving towards your goal.  

HANG IN THERE -- there is no going back, so try and press on!