Hello everyone.  I had my surgery in Sep of 2012.  I have worked really hard to lose the weight I have lost.  I am so happy and proud of my self and the things that I could never do that now just come natural.  Like sitting in any chair that I want.  Putting my seatbelt on, running around th yard with my daughter, playing in the snow today for an hour and not being out of breath.. The list goes on and on. But here is my issue.  I now weight 229.  I started out at 468.  I have always said from the beginning that I want to see that 199.  But the scale has stopped moving for now and hey Im not complaining because I know that it will move again.  However, almost everyone I know keeps telling me that I need to stop obsessing over the weight loss now and that 229 is a great weight because i used to be a whole lot bigger.  Am I wrong to not want to listen to this crap... I feel like YES i am so much healthier.. But that goal of 199 is what I have been wanting...So my question is when is enough enough..  AM I babbling.. I havent been on in so long but just needed to get some insight.  I feel like its not time to throw in the towell but at the same time do people see something I dont.. Opinions plz

Nope - not time to throw in the towel - it NEVER is.  There's one lady here who too 9 years to reach goal - but she DID it - and never quit.  You've come sooooo far - you've had amazing success - so F#@k Yeah - go for that 199 sista - don't let ANYTHING get in your way!  No towel throwing! 

When enough is enough ? When you decide it is. 

At the same time - from a few words you wrote - maybe your friends are thinking that they have enough of you obsessing to them about your weight loss ? Maybe they hear you over and over and wish you can be more happy about what you already accomplished and stop talking about needing to lose more ? 

I know I can be insensitive when I am focusing and obsessing about my weight loss even close to 6 years post op.  In last couple of months I gained over 10 lbs and put myself on a very strict diet to lose the regain plus another 10 lbs (hopefully). 

And your post made me realized that just yesterday I complained about my diet and how hard it is to lose weight to a much larger friend.  I am currently size 6-8 and I would like to get back to a small 6... And there I was talking to a lady who is probably size 18-20, about how fat I feel and how frustrated I am that the weight is not dropping off fast enough (I lost my 8- 10 lbs recent regain in 2 weeks) ... 

I think your post made me realized how probably crazy and insensitive I looked in the eyes of my friend/coworker... I don't think she is fat or that she needs to lose weight - but I wonder if she thinks that I am a complete "ass" .... One of the "skinny *****es" that whines about 5 imaginary fat they need to lose ( BTW I have a few friends size 00 - who often do complain about their fantom fat ).... 

Look at yourself and decide if your friends telling you to stop losing weight or stop talking about obsessing about it, that is 2 different things. 

I know I need to stop talking about obsessing about my weight.  I don't need to stop obsessing... Lol.. But I need to shut up and just do it. 

Hugs. 

I think Hala is right on the money!  Complain and obsess on this forum, because that's what we're all doing and we are used to all the "weight talk."  Don't drive your friends and family nuts obsessing and complaining about the scale.  Most of my friends are healthier than me and eat horribly.  They would HATE me if I ever mentioned losing weight or eating healthy or exercising.  I just do what I need to do for me - and keep my friends. 

You are NEVER done until you decide.  The only difficulty is, after 18 months out, you are pretty much going to have to do it the old fashioned way.  You will have to fight for every pound you loose and keep off.  It is all about calories at this point.  You will have to significantly limit your calories and/or exercise quite a bit.  Not the easy way at all, but if you want to go farther, this is what will work. . . .and it will not be easy. 

Speaking from a fellow "heavyweight" and someone that started at over 400 lbs, I completely understand where you are coming from - especially since my scale has literally been dancing around 201.8 - 204 for what seems like an eternity. People think that I should just be happy to be down 240 lbs and stop worrying so much about seeing 199 - but to me it's a big deal.

I think that you've done a great job and have made a lot of progress. If you stopped now, would you still be a success? Yes! But, I think if you want that 199, then keep working towards it. I know I will be.... but we both have to accept that if we work hard it will only come in time. There is no time limit on seeing that number... so just know that even if you decide to stick at 229 for awhile longer, you (and me too) can make it happen in the future!

You've done well!  Kudos on your success to date.  I concer with Hala, during the weight loss phase we can become obsessive with the weight loss and probably talk too much about it.   Our friends and family support us but eventually they don't want to hear about our obsession to lose weight.  Here or other WLS boards those following the same journey "get us" so post your fears, concerns, happiness, SV and NSV. 

Try to limit conversations in your personal world.  If someone ask they you can talk about it to them, thank them, and move on.

Enough is enough when you are ready to say it is weight-wise as long as you stay healthy mentally about it. 

I think they are just trying to be good friends/family and help you see the positive and how far you have come.

I think they are trying to show you the positive so you don't get discouraged. Use their positivity as a mental, "I have come far, this little bit more is not as far as I have already came!  I can do it!!"

And indeed you have have come so far.

You WILL see 199.  That 30 lbs is NOTHING compared to what you have already done.

Have you had excess skin removed?  If not, that could be 15-30 lbs right there.

keep exercising, working the plan, and I am rooting for you too!

Have you had excess skin removed?  If not, that could be 15-30 lbs right there.

Only if it's attached to a LOT of fat!!!!   I doubt mine weighed 0.5lbs!!!!

ETA:   I see the OP was 468lbs so it's wholly likely that she does have fat attached to excess skin - my bad!   

DArn. When you watch 600 lb life, they take out at least 15-30lbs in the skin removal in the episodes. I guess "Newman' (my flabby lower tummy) will still be there!

Murf!  :(

They are also usually doing that on someone who is still MO and only do it because of mobility issues.  Look at the blob of what they take off and you can easily see how much of that is still fat.

My panni was quite large in the sense that it hung down well onto the tops of my thighs, but there was very little fat left... Just skin and underlying tissue.  It was only 6 pounds despite everyone (including the surgeon until he marked me up right before surgery) saying it would be 15-20 pounds.  Nope, not even close.

Lora