when do you stop feeling fat?

on 3/31/14 11:32 am - MD
RNY on 07/30/13

Okay I am now down 118pounds and can wear size 18. No longer in obese bmi category but feel as fat as I did before. Yes I know I am in a smaller size but in my head I am still feeling like my old 26. So when did you feel "normal"?  Vets was it when you reached your goal weight or does it ever happen?


Laura in Texas
on 3/31/14 11:52 am
RNY on 09/17/08 with

I reached goal weight at 14 months out. I'd say it took another 2-2.5 years to get used to it and feel somewhat "normal".

I'm 5.5 years out now and am used to being this size.

Laura in Texas

52 years old; 5'7" tall; HW: 339 (BMI=53); GW: 140 CW: 150 (BMI=24)

RNY: 09-17-08 Dr. Garth Davis

brachioplasty: 12-18-09 Dr. Wainwright; lbl/bl: 06-28-11 Dr. LoMonaco

"If what you're doing doesn't work, change what you're doing - don't complain that it doesn't work."

on 3/31/14 9:42 pm
On March 31, 2014 at 6:52 PM Pacific Time, Laura in Texas wrote:

I reached goal weight at 14 months out. I'd say it took another 2-2.5 years to get used to it and feel somewhat "normal".

I'm 5.5 years out now and am used to being this size.

We share the same story - wow.  I'm kinda glad to know it's just not me!  Another thing that helped me feel "normal" was when people finally stopped commenting about my weight loss.  I think for me, that fulfilled the biggest wish ever - to just blend in with society and just be me!


on 3/31/14 11:58 am
RNY on 08/21/12

I'm not sure I want to feel "normal." I'm afraid it will make me complacent. I don't mind continuing to consider myself a fat guy. I don't beat myself up over it or anything.

6'3" tall, male. Maintaining a loss of 280 pounds.

Highest weight was 475. Consult weight 04/12 was 411. RNY on 08/21/12 at 359 lbs. Current weight 195.

M1 -24; M2 -21; M3 -19; M4 -21; M5 -13; M6 -21; M7 -10; M8 -16; M9 -10; M10 -8; M11 -6; M12 -5.

MyLady Heidi
on 3/31/14 12:42 pm

Some days I feel fat and bloated.  I will never feel thin.  I am happy with being average weight.  I am nine years out on Saturday and weigh 130lbs.

Sherrie P.
on 3/31/14 1:13 pm
RNY on 02/06/13

I still feel fat. I still don't understand why my clothes fit me. It is so weird. 

I reached goal --- but still feel like an intruder in the "misses" department.

Revision Lapband to RNY 2-6-2013   HW: 286  Pre-Op Diet: 277  Surgery Day: 265  Goal: 155  CW: 155

Plastic surgery 8/28/2014: Brachioplasty, mastopexy, & abdominoplasty.

Plastic surgery 1/27/2015: Butt Lift


Karen R.
on 3/31/14 1:17 pm
RNY on 04/14/13

I'm not as far out as some of the people who have already responded to you, but I've got to agree with their perspective--even though I'm down from 237 to 127, there are times I look in the mirror and think, 'Wow.  you still have a long way to go.'  Part of that is the excess skin, which distorts my silhouette. But part of it is a true issue with perception. 

I went shopping last weekend and saw a cute XS top.  I picked it up and thought to myself, 'Good lord!  That's so small it looks like doll clothes.'  Because I liked it and it was the only size available, I took it in to the dressing room with me anyway.  I figured what the hell--I'd see how far away I was from being able to wear it.  It fit like a glove.  I don't see myself properly.  I wonder if I ever will.

5'4" | Pre Surgery BMI:  40.7 | Current BMI:  20.8 | SW:  237 |  CW:  121 |  GW:  125

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on 3/31/14 2:51 pm

When it happens I'll let you know 

Seriously, I know intellectually that I am not fat but emotionally I still feel like a fat person wearing a thin suit, if that makes sense.  I just act as if I know I am normal size, you know, fake it until you make it.

WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010

High Weight  (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.

on 3/31/14 9:37 pm - WA
RNY on 08/13/13 with
I feel the same as other posters. I know logically that I'm not considered fat, but when I look in the mirror I still see where I need to lose a little more weight. I'm still fairly new to this lifestyle so don't know how long, or if I want to believe that I'm thin now. I don't want to get complacent either, but also know that I just can't keep losing weight and that I'm going to have to deal with maintenance at some point. I don't obsess over it, I just still cellulite, some loose skin, but I have had plastics, so it's not too bad. I'm hoping that as I get more used to seeing and being myself in this reduced body, that it will become easier to see. Use lf more realistically.

Lapband surgery in 2009 -  Revision to RNY August 13, 2013 with gallbladder removal.

HW - (260)   SW - (197)   GW - (135), updated on 1-2-14 to 125lbs  HT 5'5"  Goal reached 3/2/14-revised goal to 120 on 3/9/14   reached 4/6/14             


on 3/31/14 10:31 pm

It is difficult for us to see ourselves accurately.  At 440lbs, I did not see myself as that big in the mirror.  But when I saw a picture of myself, then I realized just how big I was.  The same is true for the other side.  We may not see the changes in general, but look at the difference in the clothes.  Look at the differences in pictures.  

I have a long way to go still, but some days I just feel thin.  That is, I feel like I am doing the right things to be the thinner person I want to be.  I feel healthy.  I feel strong.  I feel in control.  Things I have not felt in years.

Sometimes we just have to fake it till we make it.

Best of luck in your journey.



HW: 440.5  RNY 2/18 (Feb - 27, Mar -21, Apr -11, May -15.5, Jun - 12, Jul -14.5, Aug -9, Sept -11, Oct 6.2)

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