Would you reveal that you had WLS to someone you just started dating? If so how soon?

Is it important to tell someone that you recently started dating that you've undergone WLS in the last few months?  How would you handle this, because I feel uncomfortable when we go on dates and I never eat a lot.

Well, *I* would, but then, *I* also tell random strangers standing in line at the supermarket. (*grin*)

Are you afraid you'll be judged for your decision? Are you afraid he's secretly a fattie-hater? Something else?

I think that *I* would prefer any negative reaction I'd get from sharing that I'd had WLS before I became emotionally involved with someone.

I agree Ms. Batt.  

Yup.., what Sonja and Ms. Batt said... way better to find out early on if there's an issue.  But I would say don't make it big deal... it's just a thing... then move on.  If he freaks, he freaks... kick his sorry ass to the curb for being a jackass. 

I'm right there with you MsBatt! I tell people in the doctors office,grocery store,anyone that might listen. I try to debunk some of the false stories out there that keep people from having this lifesaving surgery. Not everyone has issues or can't eat real food after surgery,but that seems to be what most people think!

"I" bring it up as soon as chocolate is mentioned....:)

I never did but I was already six years out when I started dating ...  

I didn't discuss my colonoscopy or my tonsillectomy either - suppose I don't think it's some random's business.  I told my boyfriend once we were in a serious relationship.

For me I would not tell a date until you are sure that this is someone you might be willing to get serious with.  In other words, I probably wouldn't share it on the first date, but as we got to know each other, I would share the info as soon as I felt comfortable.  Only the people closest to me know I had surgery, so I wouldn't be likely to share the info with someone I didn't know yet.

I tell people when it comes up.  If we're discussing where to go to dinner and he or she suggests a buffet, I say, "I am happy to go there, but just know I don't eat very much."  If he or she asks why, I say "I had gastric bypass surgery a few years ago."  In some cases, it doesn't come up until someone sees my scar and if they ask what it's from, I tell them.

You know, though, you don't have to go to eat on dates.  You can do other things on dates.

No, I don't mention it within just a few dates, but I also don't mention any other medical procedure I have had! I personally prefer the first few dates to be something a little less "serious" than dinner (e.g., meet at a coffee shop (and maybe split a snack) or go to a sporting event). 

If it had come up, though, and I felt the best thing was to mention it, I would have.  If he is/was going to have a negative reaction, I would prefer to know it sooner rather than later. 

Lora