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Mahalo F.
on 12/28/16 6:28 pm

 

Hi guys!

Every year one of my best friends host New Year's Eve.

In the first 3 years following my husband's death, I would simply tell her that I just wasn't ready.

The last three years have been a lot of fun.  My three kids hang out with their kids.  This year I really didn't want to go.

It has nothing to do with self control.  Day 15 Opti fast & I am past the point of no return.

My best friend know's about my RNY & has been supportive.

The problem is there are 2 other families that don't know.

So what do I say when they ask me why I am not eating?

One of them is known for being a gossip and quite honestly, I don't want the whole world to know.     I am in a very calm place right now (thanks to all of you) .  She has a very strong personality and has tendency to be quite opinionated. 

What should I say?

Thanks for the input

Sandra

Mahalo

 

 

Roux En Y - Jan. 4, 2017

HW 283 SW 260 CW 165

IN THE END WE ONLY REGRET CHANCES WE DIDN'T TAKE.

peachpie
on 12/28/16 6:43 pm - Philadelphia, PA
RNY on 04/28/15

I recall having to go to a cookout while on the 2 week liquid diet. I was offered food and politely declined, without offering explanation. No one questioned me. I think we often convince ourselves we need to explain ourselves when we don't. 

If anyone persists, people usually back off by saying you have food allergy, or upset stomach. 

5'6.5" High weight:337 Lowest weight:193/31 BMI: Goal: 195-205/31-32 BMI

Mahalo F.
on 12/28/16 7:01 pm

Thank you!

 

Roux En Y - Jan. 4, 2017

HW 283 SW 260 CW 165

IN THE END WE ONLY REGRET CHANCES WE DIDN'T TAKE.

SkinnyScientist
on 12/29/16 11:28 am

If anyone persists, people usually back off by saying you have food allergy, or upset stomach. 

-THIS is why you are one of my favorite OH'ers.  You are a class act and just know how to "handle" people without making THEM OR YOU feel uncomfortable!

 

RNY Surgery: 12/31/2013; 

Current weight (2/27/2015) 139lbs, ~14% body fat

Three pounds below Goal!!! Yay !  

CJ On Orcas
on 12/28/16 7:32 pm
RNY on 09/09/16

Tell them you are fasting for a colonoscopy ;0

Sharon SW-267
GW-165 CW-167 S.

on 12/28/16 9:42 pm - PA
RNY on 12/22/14

The best answer.

Sharon

crqvingchange
on 12/28/16 8:07 pm

I had to go to a party during my Optifast phase.  I made one of the vanilla Optifast shakes with ice and decaf coffee crystals and put it into a large clear Starbucks cup.  Everyone assumed I was drinking iced coffee.

CENTURY CLUB MEMBER at 6 months post-op.

Referral to Guelph Feb/13, Sleep study and all bloodwork and ultrasound May/13, orientation July/13. Nurse, NUT,SW Sept/13, 2nd NUT, nurse and SW, 3rd round and cleared for surgery Dec/13. Pre-op Apr 7/14, Surgeon May 2/14, Opti Jul 3/14, surgery Jul 17/14.

supershopper
on 12/29/16 5:13 am

Your story is yours to tell alone. You tell who you want when you want and be choosy about who you tell if they are motor mouths. I was VERY specific with my family that they were not to blab my medical information to others outside the family, and some did anyway. I was very unhappy with them. It is no ones business but your own and you choose to lead that.

You don't answer to anyone tell her you are not hungry then change the question to something about her. If she is a gossip she will be more than willing to talk about herself instead.

 

 

HW 305 SW 278 Surgery weight 225 GW 160 LW: 118.8

RNY 12/15/2015,

GB removal 09/2016,

Twisted bowel/hernia repair 08/2017

M1 Dec 2015-13.0, M2-7.0, M3-14.5, M4-9.4, M5-7.1, M6 9.8, M7-7.6 ,M8- 7.6, M-9 5.5, M10-6.4, M11- 2.2, M12 Dec 2016- 5.8

supershopper
on 12/29/16 5:15 am

AND - I like the colonoscopy idea- lol - then maybe go into some gross detail about poop- that should help

HW 305 SW 278 Surgery weight 225 GW 160 LW: 118.8

RNY 12/15/2015,

GB removal 09/2016,

Twisted bowel/hernia repair 08/2017

M1 Dec 2015-13.0, M2-7.0, M3-14.5, M4-9.4, M5-7.1, M6 9.8, M7-7.6 ,M8- 7.6, M-9 5.5, M10-6.4, M11- 2.2, M12 Dec 2016- 5.8

SkinnyScientist
on 12/29/16 11:30 am

" go into some gross detail about poop- that should help"

-HAHAHA.   Can we make interesting?  Like it being orange..hot pink?  Super smelly like roses!?!?!?

RNY Surgery: 12/31/2013; 

Current weight (2/27/2015) 139lbs, ~14% body fat

Three pounds below Goal!!! Yay !  

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