Body image issues

on 4/8/19 10:35 pm

Have any of you still have body image issues even after hitting goal weight? I still have issues 18 months post op. Most of the time I see myself on the bigger side (usually looking in the mirror naked. But in some pictures I think I look skinny but in others I dont. I'm a nurse at a correctional facility and I had an inmate call me fluffy, but yet my co workers think I'm to skinny. I'm 5'8" 165 pounds with BMI in healthy range. How do you deal with your body image issues?

Highest weight: 265, surgery weight: 245, surgery date: 9/11/17 RNY m1: - 26 m2: - 14 m3: -15 m4: -10 m5: -8 m6: - 4 m7: -6.5 m8: - 1.5 m9: -3 m10: - 0 m11: - 2 m12: -0

Erin T.
on 4/9/19 2:28 am
VSG on 01/17/17

Therapy. It's the only thing that's helped me. I hated myself fat, and then I hated myself thin. Then I got plastics and...still hated myself. I started therapy in June and it's been really great. I'm not sure I'll ever be 100% "there" but I'm far more accepting of my body than I ever have been.

VSG: 1/17/17

5'7" HW: 283 SW: 229 CW: 135-140 GW: 145

Pre-op: 53 M1: 22 M2: 12 M3: 12 M4: 8 M5: 10 M6: 11 M7: 5 M8: 6 M9-M13: 15-ish

LBL/BL w/ Fat Transfer 1/29/18

on 4/9/19 3:50 am - GTA, Ontario, Canada
RNY on 11/15/13

To answer your question "any of you still have body image issues even after hitting goal weight?" The answer is 100% yes. I am 5 yrs 5mos post op and every single day I see an MO woman in the mirror. Even at 5 yrs post op I have found myself shopping in the plus size section of clothing stores and then have to snap myself out of it.

No matter what weight I have been I have had body image issues. I unfortunately came from a family of anorexics, my grandmother was anorexic at one point in her life & suffered from body image issues, my mother was anorexic for all of my childhood & teenage years and has major body image issues. I was also anorexic in my late teens/20's and have been dealing with body image for as long as I can remember. How do I deal with it, being honest with you I don't. For me personally I have other major things going on in my life and dealing with body image is very low on my list of priorities. Can you look into an EAP program at your work? Start working with a counselor?

As for the inmate who called you fluffy, looks like that person was trying to get into your head as your height and weight seem fine to me.

Best of luck

Daisy 5'5" HW: 280 SW: 254 CW: 125 - 130

Nov 15, 2013 - RNY - Toronto Western Hospital

Nov 2, 2017 - Gallbladder removal & hernia repair

Answers to your problems are not at the bottom of a chip bag or in a box of Oreo's! You can do this!

on 4/9/19 4:28 am

Thank you. The inmate really had no place to talk as his BMI is higher than mine has ever been but it hit a nerve.

Highest weight: 265, surgery weight: 245, surgery date: 9/11/17 RNY m1: - 26 m2: - 14 m3: -15 m4: -10 m5: -8 m6: - 4 m7: -6.5 m8: - 1.5 m9: -3 m10: - 0 m11: - 2 m12: -0

on 4/9/19 4:39 am - GTA, Ontario, Canada
RNY on 11/15/13

I am sorry that happened to you and its really sad that inmate felt the need to be so mean to you, I guess since he is behind bars he only has "words" he can use!! Since you are the facilities RN maybe slip some Miralax into his cough syrup next time LOL LOL The ***** in me would have said snarkily back to him "I might be fluffy but I am not the one behind bars sleeping this in hell hole tonight." I am sure you are not supposed to engage with inmates but at least you can say that in your head or under your breath!

You look awesome and have done fantastic, as much as his comment hit a nerve remember that no one's opinion matters about your weight or shape but your own opinion.

on 4/9/19 7:58 am

I would of loved to say some things to him lol, but you're comment made me LOL. Thanks!

Highest weight: 265, surgery weight: 245, surgery date: 9/11/17 RNY m1: - 26 m2: - 14 m3: -15 m4: -10 m5: -8 m6: - 4 m7: -6.5 m8: - 1.5 m9: -3 m10: - 0 m11: - 2 m12: -0

Gina 17 Yrs and Still

on 4/9/19 2:31 pm - Burleson , TX

You DO know the inmate is not locked up, because he is an ASSETT to society - right ????? They KNOW the buttons, to push. If you had acne, he would call you "pimple puss"...

RNY 4-22-02... HAG=Honest And Genuine

LW: 6lb,10 oz SW:340lb GW:170lb CW:160

I learn something new, EVERY day, from SOME body

on 4/9/19 5:52 am
RNY on 02/15/18

Yes. I'm not at goal, but I've lost over 100 lbs and still feel like I weigh 350.

when I don't feel THAT, I feel like I've traded my old insecurities in for others. Like I can see that there is less of me, but now I'm constantly worried about hiding my arm flab, or the way my thigh skin hangs over my knees, or how I still look like I'm about 8 months pregnant because the weight just isn't moving from my midsection. Sigh.

Therapy is what I recommend. Also, while I've never really enjoyed shopping and still don't, finding one or two items that fit you perfectly and camouflage the things you don't like is a helluva mood booster :)

HW: 340 SW: 329 Goal: 150

CW: 239

Surgeon: Dr. Kalyana Nandipati (Omaha, NE)

on 4/10/19 11:32 am
VSG on 03/01/17

When I was obese, I hated my body at all times and was always hyper-aware of my fat. Now, I feel fat sometimes, slender sometimes, and can actually be distracted by living life enough to not think of my body sometimes.

Height: 5'5" SW: 222 lbs CW: 122 lbs