Help me understand

on 9/7/20 3:36 pm
RNY on 11/27/19

Okay so I have been gone for a couple of months due to my mother having a health scare where she nearly died. She was in hospital for two months after her sodium levels tanked so bad that she passed out, fell, and broke her back. She then had days where she couldn't communicate, started having seizures, and didn't know who I was. Thankfully she recovered from that but I was the one that volunteered to go down and take care of her because she was not able to be alone.

Anyway, at home I am for the most part on task with what I'm supposed to eat and I do well with my weight loss and not putting junk in my body. When I go to the states to be with mom or my daughter and her family, I end up eating junk pretty much the whole time and I don't understand why. The first time I went it was for 3 weeks and when I got home I had gained 2 pounds but no biggie since I lost 20 the next month that I was home.

This time I was gone for another 3 1/2 weeks and again it was constant eating crap. Of course I can't eat much but that didn't stop me from eating chinese, mexican, cracker crust pizza, chicken fried steak, and the other junk like ice cream and cookies or cakes etc. When I got back home I had not gained any weight thank goodness but only had lost 4 pounds when I could have lost so much more by just following my program like I do at home.

My question for those that may find they do this when they aren't at home is why do you think we do this? I don't know if I was emotionally eating or just wanted to eat what everyone else was eating or what the heck is going on. I am back home and right back on track but I have been thinking about this and thought I would see if anyone else goes through this.

Thanks for taking the time to read and oh yeah I'm finally in Onederland woohoo. Of course I would have been here sooner but I was eating like I had never had those foods before. It really is a struggle and I don't understand it.

White Dove
on 9/7/20 5:02 pm

The first 18 months after surgery is a honeymoon period where you will still have weight loss, even when eating foods that are not really healthy. This is the time to learn how to avoid those foods. Most of us have worked with a therapist to get those issues under control.

I am sorry that your mother had those problems. You need to work on the food issues and develop other ways to deal with stress than food. As time goes on, your body will not be so forgiving of the bad choices and many people regain a significant amount or even all of the lost weight.

Use this honeymoon period to work on these issues so you will make healthy food choices in the future.

Real life begins where your comfort zone ends

on 9/7/20 5:28 pm
RNY on 11/27/19

White Dove you are so right and so informative as always. It is such a struggle during a crisis for me and yep I definitely need to get this under control. I think you are right on the money about working with a therapist, especially at this time of craziness in the world. At home I never have problems eating healthy because I don't allow junk in the house but away from home, it's everywhere and it's like a lost friend calling me home lol. Thank you for your input. I appreciate it so much.

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