What's on your (PHOTO) Friday Menu?

catwoman7
on 2/24/23 7:30 am
RNY on 06/03/15

wow - that is awful! I've found most professors to be really accommodating when these kinds of crises come up. And she's dead wrong - employers generally ARE accommodating in these types of situations. If I worked for one who wasn't, I'd be looking for another job...

RNY 06/03/15 by Michael Garren (Madison, WI)

HW: 373 SW: 316 GW: 150 LW: 138 CW: 163

Mkess
on 2/24/23 10:37 am
VSG on 08/09/21

Oh yeah, every one of my previous employers have never had a problem when a health or personal issue arose to the point of disrupting my work. Professionally, it seems widely accepted now to look out for an employee's well-being above the bottom line. I should say that when I was working in back of house restaurants as a kid, there was no valid reason to miss a day. Even if you got hurt in the kitchen, it was expected that you showed up.

However, I've had one other professor, 25 years ago, that drew a hard fast line. The only thing that I remember about that professor is her being unreasonable.

HW: 371 SW: 333 CW: 248 Surgery: 8/9/21

"The best preparation for the future is to live as if there were none." -Albert Einstein


Partlypollyanna
on 2/26/23 2:40 am
RNY on 02/14/18

I think some academics get really far from reality. I had a mentee who was in a MBA program and was given a supply chain problem and told she had to solve it herself because "in the real world, you wouldn't be able to work as a group"....when in fact the global supply chain problem is always a group project.

HW: 306 SW: 282 GW: 145 (reached 2/6/19) CW:150

Jen

catwoman7
on 2/24/23 7:29 am
RNY on 06/03/15

I think you're right. Most of them are accommodating when students are dealing with situations like this.

RNY 06/03/15 by Michael Garren (Madison, WI)

HW: 373 SW: 316 GW: 150 LW: 138 CW: 163

Cautiously_Hopeful
on 2/24/23 8:56 am
WLS on 07/15/22

You look prepared! Sorry your professor doesn't understand that the real world has come a long way with understanding that life does, in fact, happen. Hopefully she grows some empathy. Glad to hear your dad is continuing in the right direction!

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catwoman7
on 2/24/23 5:44 am
RNY on 06/03/15

Mornin' All!

well I was dreading going to the visitation last night, but honestly, it was really great. No urn, no casket, no clergy person talking, no one giving speeches. It truly was a "gathering of friends", like it said in his obit. They'd reserved a room at the funeral home (that I suppose did the cremation) that looked like a big living room, and there was food catered in, including things like chicken satay and some bruschetta as well as other things - things that I know he would have picked if he'd have picked them out himself. Oh - and beer and wine, too. I loved his family. I knew all about them but had never met them before. His two sisters plus a niece were there. Lovely people. I hope to get together with one of the sisters this weekend or next week (the other one plus the niece are heading back to FL tomorrow morning). There were probably around 60 people who'd stopped by at some point during the thing (4:00-7:00 pm), but many stayed for most if not all of it. I saw a couple of people who worked with Bob and me 35-ish years ago, which was great fun, and a few others whom I'd met throughout the years. People kind of gathered in small groups and reminisced about Bob, as well as other things. It was just great. That was exactly the type of thing I'd want for myself - and my mother when her time comes (may do it in the community room of her independent living complex, though (or wherever she happens to live at the time), since most of the people she knows and socializes with at this point in her life live there).

so anyway, that was that. Today I have GOT to get ahead on reading for classes since I did very little of that yesterday. I mostly worked on redactable puzzles and spent time at the visitation (we got there around 4:30 and hung around until after 8:00 even though it was officially over at 7:00 - so great talking to the people there!). I also plan to go to water aerobics later on this morning and do some baking - protein muffins plus something for my cookbook discussion group that meets tomorrow over lunch.

QOTD: I don't think I'd want to be on TV, so...nuttin'! I do enjoy watching the Great British Bake Off, though. I've only seen a few episodes and love it - I don't know why I haven'****ched it more often (well, other than I'm not much of a TV person)

B: plain skyr with fruit, coffee with half & half

MS: protein shake

L: egg salad sandwich

AS: the rest of the protein pudding I made the other day

D: stuff I brought home from the visitation (tons of food left over!) - chicken satay, bruschetta, and fresh fruit (I have enough for 3 or 4 meals, actually - so you'll see this on my menu a lot this weekend!)

This is the only photo I have of my friend who died, unfortunately - although people didn't take photos nearly as much before everyone had a smart phone. I had so many friends who've passed that I wish I had pictures - or more pictures - of! This one was taken about five years ago. Bob (the one who died) is on the right. The man on the left is a mutual friend of ours. I started working with him (the friend on the left) on another UW campus almost 40 years ago, and we were both hired by the Madison campus the same year (about 35 years ago). We met Bob once we started working at Madison - we were all on the same staff. The three of us were pretty inseparable those first few years, but the last few years we've only gotten together two or three times a year - but, life happens. Once we all moved on to different jobs, our lives changed. We still got together occasionally, though. This was taken at a Thai restaurant we had lunch at one day

RNY 06/03/15 by Michael Garren (Madison, WI)

HW: 373 SW: 316 GW: 150 LW: 138 CW: 163

Emiepie
on 2/24/23 5:58 am
RNY on 08/11/14

The gathering of friends sounds like a perfect way to remember your friend.

RNY 8/11/14 with Dr. Kelvin Higa PS Lipectomy 4/12/17 with Dr. John Burnett HW291.4/CW165/GW150

catwoman7
on 2/24/23 7:34 am
RNY on 06/03/15

it really was! I don't know if he told his sisters what he wanted in terms of a memorial-type service, but I would imagine this is exactly the kind of thing he would have wanted!

RNY 06/03/15 by Michael Garren (Madison, WI)

HW: 373 SW: 316 GW: 150 LW: 138 CW: 163

lmfontana4
on 2/24/23 8:09 am
RNY on 03/24/21

It sounds like the visitation is just what you needed and wanted. I am glad it was a pleasant experience overall.

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Cautiously_Hopeful
on 2/24/23 8:58 am
WLS on 07/15/22

Glad you were able to make it, and great picture of your Musketeer days!

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