Tekish’s Posts
Welcome back.
Congratulations on your successes.
I started here at the end of 2002 as Tek but you may have already been fading.
I can't handle 600 pound life, though my spouse loves it. For me, it's 'misery porn.' I started as large or larger than most of them and I can't help but personalize their experiences. :shiver:
Good Luck,
Tek
Congratulations on your anniversary and being around after such a rough year to celebrate.
Continued good luck,
Tek
On a daily basis I would not go near any of the foods you mention. Not no way, not no how.
Vacations, however, are a horse of a different color. While my surgical restrictions are still in place I explore different than normal foods and drinks. I have fruity alcoholic drinks, I have cognac after dinner, I have desert. For meals, I make 'interesting' choices, explore local foods, whatever. I still leave a lot on the plate but that is life.
We can't tell you if you can eat or drink anything. My eating and drinking at 6 months wa**** and miss. Plus, I dump. Generally, taking a small taste was doable most times but I would not want to dump in the middle of a theme park.
I've never been anywhere that I could not find something my plan would allow.
Good luck, enjoy your trip.
Tek
Nope. Just nil by mouth after midnight before a mid morning surgery.
No liquid diet, no colon cleanse.
Ditto.
My surgeon had no issue with NSAIDs on occasion. Daily use he took exception too.
Tylenol, because of liver issues I have are ruled right out.
I distrust blanket "do not take" lists because they don't take into account personal situations.
I do trust my medical team and we discuss my needs and the available options.
Tek
I don't think I got all my food/liquid down for the first 6 weeks. I just did the best I could knowing it would get better.
One thing that likely got my liquids better than it felt was SF Popsicles. I went through a lot of them, probably 2-3 big boxes a week. Flavor, fluid, and cool. Great combination.
Again, just do the best as you can. It will get better.
Good luck,
Tek
You have quite a talent. This and the other pictures you posted are amazing.
Tek
Sorta late, but here I am. I managed to avoid the work I've been avoiding, so that is good. In a minor funk today.
B: nada
L: A bit of italian stuff.
D: nothing
S: No snacks.
I hope you work out your issues with your parents. Family can be such a bother.
Tek
Nothing much going on today at Casa Tek. I've got some work I want to get done so sometime this weekend. I'm putting off starting because I won't stop until I'm done.
QOTD: A rogue.
Food today is totally up in the air.
As usual, Mongolian BBQ is on the table as it has been for a couple weeks. We just never manage to get there. So I'm not holding my breath.
Happy election day weekend. Vote early, vote often.
Tek
Congratulations.
It seems a lot of us old timers are militant about our plans.
I wonder if there is a connection. 
Tek
Well it looked like you were mocking her. Yea you got some ****ty humor.
Judge not lest ye be judged.
What are you talking about? So did I.
Perhaps you didn't notice, but I virtually copied what Rocky posted. Word for word.
Perhaps my humor was too subtle. Not everyone get's humor. I hope Rocky did, though.
All due respect to Rocky, but RNY is a different kettle of fish.
First, just stick to your plan and stay off the scale if it bother's you. If you follow your program you will lose weight.
Next, we lose weight in a stair step fashion. You will lose a few pounds, then stay the same weight for a while, then lose a few more pounds, etc. A true stall will last for a month or more. Going a week or two without losing is completely normal. Your body has to adjust along the way.
So, no magic words...just stick to your plan.
Rocky... err Tek
Another gloriously boring day planned at Casa Tek.
My wife has been at our daughters house for several days to look after our grandson while she's at work. We are normally joyfully attached at the hip, so not having her here... no... not having her next to me is very wrong. We both feel out of balance. So distraction is the order of the day. Did all my housework yesterday, so today is looking like make-work. I think I'll reorganize my hobby bench.
B: Bacon, mushroom, onion scrambled eggs.
L: Probably Breakfast will be more of a brunch thing.
D: No idea yet.
S: No snacks.
QOTD: Dragons of course. Not "Reign of Fire" dragons, no. "How to train your dragon" or "Dragonheart" dragons. Oh, "Eragon" dragons would work, also. My wife would want "I am Dragon" dragons. But, yeah, Dragons.
Happy Saturday.
As usual, not much planned around Casa Tek today. I was awakened early thanks to a process that failed spectacularly which then clobbered my processes just because it could. Once addressed, I could then begin my wonderfully boring day: housework, laundry, and other miscellaneous chores.
QOTD: Anyone who is even slightly aware of me can probably come up with the answer: Mongolian BBQ.
B: No breakfast today.
L: Tacos.
D: ??? I'm open to suggestions.
S: No snacks.
People will give you advice on staying, talking to him etc and bless their hearts they mean well.
You need to make a plan and get away from this man. He won't change, however nice he is being at the moment and he could become dangerous if he thinks he's losing you.
My ex was controlling and manipulative but not physically abusive. When I left him, however, he tried to kill me. The two most dangerous times in any woman's life are when they are pregnant and when they leave a relationship. Even mild mannered men can become dangerous.
I know this all sounds dramatic, but if it doesn't happen, being safe and having a plan won't hurt, right?
I'm one of those people that generally believes communication is critical to relationships that work. Miscommunication can destroy relationships quicker than just about anything. Typically, I advocate working hard to restore relationships that, at least at some point, was something positive and special.
However...
As described I'm not seeing any miscommunication here. I see a spouse attacking and attacking again. And not just words intended to hurt during an argument. We're seeing purposely damaging actions. Actions this person thought through. From someone who swore to love and protect you.
As a guy, I am compelled by the guy rule book to support the husband. So, here goes: He is an evil, selfish, self-centered, controlling, disgusting, filthy, loveless, stupid arse. In saying this, I fear I am being unfair to evil, selfish, self-centered, controlling, disgusting, filthy, loveless, stupid arses. To them I apologize. To him, I feel like I need to get out my thesaurus. There, my obligation is complete. I feel dirty sticking up for this guy as much as I did. I need a shower.
Now that I'm done with sticking up for this guy...
Get an attorney. Now you never have to deal directly with this man-thing ever again. The attorney will do that for you. Don't do anything until your attorney tells you to. Get a restraining order. Don't talk to the man-thing directly ever again. Don't acknowledge it's existence.
Do your best to never think of this man-thing ever again. He is not worth your energy.
I'm gonna also suggest, if you don't have one already, a therapist. First, you are going to need support of someone with which you can talk things though. You also need to figure out how not do let this sort of thing from ever happening to you again. NO, you are not at fault at all for how big a jerk this guy was. But, you need to learn from this experience. You have your attorney for a legal and financial plan, and the therapist is for an emotional plan.
As Citizen Kim writes this all seems dramatic. It is dramatic. Your husband made it dramatic by literally declaring war on you by taking your healthcare away. So, when anyone says you are being dramatic or over-reacting, then those folks are part of the problem. Don't listen to them, you know the truth.
I can't fathom treating even my worst enemy the way your man-thing is treating you. Unbelievable.
Take care of you.
Tek
Congratulations.
So, 3 months later by my clock you should be past the worst of the pain, the worst of learning how to eat. You have had long enough that your plan should be beginning to become your new normal. So, you are on plan and losing weight. Good positive reinforcement for doing the right stuff.
Exciting times.
Tek
I doubt you are imagining that your coworkers are noticing.
Weight Loss surgery changes relationships. The good ones will get better, the bad ones worse. You've update the balance in your relationships.
First, they probably weren't as friendly and supportive as you believed them to be. Misery loves company, and y'all were probably all unhappy about your situations together. You were in the same foxhole fighting the same battles against the same skinny people.
Now they perceive you becoming the enemy.
Think about what us fat folks thought skinny folks thought of us. We thought they judged us, looked down on us, viewed our weight as character flaws. This is what your 'friends' think is going on in your mind. Their proof is how you talk differently about food, or about exercise. You are now not all in this together.
When you mention your new food choices they hear you judging their food choices. When you talk about getting new, thinner clothes they hear you judging their fat clothes. Every positive thing you mention they hear as judgement. If you try not to talk about this stuff at all, they will think even more harshly of you.
You need to be sure you are not doing, even hinting at the things they are sure you are thinking and feeling. Then it's just a matter of time. Eventually, you will stop losing weight, they eventually they will get used to the new you, and eventually a new balance will be established.
Good luck,
Tek
White Dove is spot on.
Damn it, everything I type is just rewording White Dove.
Good luck,
Tek
QOTD: I dunno. Someone asked me this yesterday and it got me to thinking. I'm not sure what makes me unique. I'm good at chainmaille but so are others. I'm stubborn but we all know most of us are...lol
As you can tell I'm still contemplating my answer!
Are you involved in a LARP group? SCA?
My wife and I looked into SCA many years ago. We were very excited, I did all the research I could, and we were ready. We went to the local group and by time the night was done... my wife said NO WAY is she bowing to anyone. And that was it.
I had planned to make her a fine silver mail to wear but I never got to do it.
I envy your talent with chainmail. :)
Good luck,
Tek
Merry weekend.
Nothing much going on at Casa Tek today. I have to take the rats (chihuahuas) to grooming. Then a few hours later I have to pick up the rats. Exciting times!
QOTD: I'm an OCD Vulcan. I am rational, not emotional. I love learning things. It bugs me when someone is wrong on the internet ;)
B: Nothing planned, but may have a couple bites of chicken if I get hungry.
L: Remember the OCD thing above? Mongolian BBQ.
D: Mongolian BBQ.
S: No snacks.
Tek
As others have noted to my everlasting joy: This is definitely a Doc question.
We can point at things to help you focus your Doc discussion. I know when I have a Doc issue, it doesn't mean I can't gather information to throw at him/her.
I have dizziness issues off and on.
The one issue related directly to RNY is that when my body is stressed my appetite goes away and I don't eat or drink well. I've been this way my whole life and it's hard to get past it. The obvious solution is to eat and drink better.
Watch your meds. They are set for an old weight, as you lose they may need adjusting. This has been an issue for me more than once.
Hope everything resolves.
Tek
Congratulations.
People have been DELAYED. I find framing things in a positive light reduces anxiety.
Even if you are delayed, you will get it in the end... err... the middle. Well, wherever.
Good luck and enjoy the ride.
Tek
Good day. I missed yesterday, somewhat just doing my curmudgeon hermit thing, just out of sorts.
QOTD: Never been much of a foody, so no chef names come to mind. Sharing a meal with folks, though, I can think of several: Carl Sagan, Benjamin Franklin, Leonardo Da Vinci, Alexander Hamilton, Aristotle.
B: skipped.
L: couple bites of chicken
D: skipped.
S: None (different than skipped as I don't do snacks).
Tek
Today is a lazy day. Typical noodling on work stuff if I get too bored. Finished all my housework yesterday.
QOTD. When I was 8 or so, there was a kid in my school that was just who I wanted to be. Ray. I wanted to be Ray.
B: A couple bites of Lasagna
L: Mongolian BBQ
D: Mongolian BBQ.
S: None
Tek
