6 Months out ... I Promised myself I wouldn't change??

I always thought before surgery that I would never change ... but I guess with one change comes more changes!  May I want them or not!   Feelings n Emotions are everywhere n I am also thinking of changing careers.    I just don't know what to do n don't wanna go into to much detail. But have any of you been feeling this way or is this just me????    I have seen a councilor twice in the past month and go again this week.    Also just realized that today I am 6 mo out cannot believe it but I am very pleased with my results n love my sleeve. 

I'm only three weeks out but I noticed how much you've lost and just wanted to say WOW!!! Congratulations to you!!!

Thank you so much

Ummm, yes.  Lots of changes.  I now have the courage to change things in my life that I am not happy with. I am moving my family cross country to a new job....dropping some negative personal relationships, being open to more positive ones.  The main thing is I feel like I am standing up for myself more. I like the positive changes that have come with my sleeve, and I want to carry those over to the rest of my life. I am also breaking some hoarding tendancies, and trying to get finances in order. So yes... changes they are a coming.....

Jenn

Amy, I think change is inevitable. 

I know that when I was losing weight a few years back with my LapBand, I saw myself change a lot!!  I had been morbidly obese for most of my adult life, and most of my teen years. 

I was never asked out on dates when I was young.  I never tried for promotions in jobs, probably felt I wasn't worth it. 

With a shrinking body, I gained more self-esteem.  Were ALL of my changes for the better.....probably not.  We are human, and aren't always going to make the best choices.  The trick is to recognize when you have changed for the worst and take steps to correct it. 

Losing over 150 pounds like you have is MAJOR....don't beat yourself up for feeling different. 

After 25 years of being an accountant, I decided to change my career to become a Research Study Coordinator - which would utilize my business degree but I've not been involved in the health care field for all these years.  I'm 47 years old and hoping that I'm not too old for them to take a chance on me and will admit me to their program.  I love learning and find this a thrilling change.

All that said, perhaps your desire to change is not all due to the VSG, but the natural progression as  a human.  perhaps you do have more confidence to look at things differently, which in itself isn't a bad thing.

I am scheduled for my surgery on May 22nd, which is the day before my 9th wedding anniversary to my wonderful husband.  I think about it as an anniversary gift to him of a healthier, happier, more alive wife than he has had for the past several years - I'm having the surgery to help with my rheumatoid arthritis as well as lower my blood pressure and other health issues.   Hopefully losing weight will allow me to keep the RA at bay for many more years.

Personally, I think your feelings are completely normal - we grow, we change, we start on new adventures all of our lives.  I'm still not sure what I want to be when I grow up ;o)

Give yourself a hug, and embrace the good things life is sending your way!

Jane

well im sure ill will change, I'm single so I will date with out shame, i will feel great to have and feel the way I had alway feel inside, I maybe move away too, new life,new me outside, and if  i have my wishes maybe ever marry :P for that I need a boyfriend first LOL,  I cant way to buy the clothe i want small size please :P,

lots of people report emotional changes with wls so its pretty natural. maybe some sort of hormonal changes or relating to changes in how you perceive yourself and how others act toward you. And maybe you weren't all that happy with your career but settled for it and now realize you could do better. My surgeon tells me he sees lots of personality changes in his patients so its pretty normal. so go ahead and explore new things. Just don't jump into anything major life changing without careful consideration.

And congrats on your great progress. Love that sleeve!!  Diane

lol...i am about 4 months out....and i got not one, but two tattoos.....and i chopped off all of my hair...i ended up donating 7 inches to locks of love...my hubby says the weight loss is going to my head...he said whats next, nipple piercing ???? i said no.....my nose !!!!!!!!!