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How do you all get through the bad times when you just want to give up on it all? For the past week I have had no energy at all and all I want to do is curl up and rest when I start feeling like that I try playing with my son for a while or jumping on the treadmill for a while to try to boost my energy but it does not help I thought it could be because I do not sleep well at night so I have been trying to take my sleep aid a little earlier but it has not helped with the energy either. I have not been able to lose any weight here lately I guess having day or sometimes 2 or 3 days like earlier in the week where I forget to eat until night time when it is really to late to eat anything I am not sure if my body is holding on to the calories that I put in where I forget to eat so much or what but I just feel like I have lost all that I am going to at times and then just want to give up. Guess I could use some advice or a pep talk or something...

Take a look at your son, dear sister.

We all have of need for motivation at times.  Mine is family! I want to live to see children graduate, get married, start their own family, etc., etc.

Find that thing of substance and hold on to it!

Ken

Thank you and you are right after all I did do this so that I could see Gabriel grow up and have a family of his own someday and because I want to be able to have more kids and be healthy doing it and to be able to grow old with my husband. My grandfather died at age 49 and my grandmother at age 52 and I don't want that for myself.

My Pop's died at 50!  If I didn't do something, I probably would have also!

Let's start with the premise that this is not a diet and you can't just quit because your body is permanently altered.  Therefore, there is no giving up.  What would giving up even look like?  All you can do is to find a way to sleep a full eight hours, eat protein, 80-100 grams a day and keep hydrated.  If you do this, you will be just fine.  Seriously, what is your other option?  We gave up all the other choices when we climbed on that operating table.  You have a great deal more power and control over this than you think.  You can choose to do all the right things until the fatigue goes away.  You can choose to change your attitude and see this as a challenge, a mountain to be climbed.  This can become a personal quest, and you can feel powerful and competent and in charge.  So the take away here is that both your behavior and your attitude is in your hands, you do not have to be the victim of cir****tances, you can be the actor, the warrior, the crusader for health.  The choice, as always, is yours and even if you choose not to choose you are still making a choice.  You asked how I get through the tough times, and there are always going to be tough times, I tell myself the same thing I am telling you now. I tell myself to make choices and live life on my terms.  I never forget that I control my behavior, my thoughts, and most importantly my attitude.  Good luck to you and to all of us. I really believe strongly that you can change direction here and make this a wildly successful experience.  I hope you do it.

Your right there is no giving up really after having this surgery I just get so stressed with it at times always trying to do the right thing always trying to get in all my protein which never happens but I do try always trying to make sure I exercise. I guess I am just in a down hill slump and I am sure it will get better and thank you for your help. The way you said it really helps to put it into prospective for me.

Huge hugs to you.  Reach out anytime, you are not alone with this.  We are stronger together.

It sounds like you have hit both weight loss and emotional stalls. And what do most of us here do when we emotionally or physically feel "off"? We eat, of course. But now that isn't normal for you, either. You did the best thing you could have done by reaching out to the OH family for support. There can't be a person here who doesn't understand your fear of failing again, as all of us have failed at achieving and maintaining a healthy weight, many of us for most of our lives.

Just keep going through the motions and keep using your tool-- have appropriate food options available at all times, eat your multiple small meals on a schedule, challenge yourself to drink 5 more ounces, exercise 5 more minutes, splurge on a manicure or a new hairstyle to make you feel special.

I've always found it interesting to keep a journal during the tough times. It often gives me insight into what I'm really feeling, and helps me refocus on what got me where I am and why I don't want to be there anymore.

You have already demonstrated that you can be successful; just treat every day as an individual challenge, and don't get bogged down in looking too far ahead. And accept that these times of trial are both inevitable and temporary.

I think you have the right idea about looking at it as if it were a challenge because I am a competitive person so maybe that will help to push me to get to where I want to be. Thank you.

I want to give you a little pep talk because you gave me one when my brother lost his leg. : ) I think you should follow the original meal plan. The times your eating and maybe what your eating is not benefiting you. Seems like 6 small meals is what most people eat and feel their best. That might give you more energy because you are constantly fueling yourself. Once you start doing that I think you will feel better and everything will come into place. You have come to far to give up now, not only that but your little guy needs you at your best. Hope that helps. Keep me posted. A great big hug for you my dear. Hang in there.