man mad?

have any of you had issues with your man being pissed because you lost weight?

I have read about it and I have heard about it from other women. There are some men who legitimately prefer heavy women and in those cases their wives were probably heavy when they married. Then there are the men who become insecure when their partners lose weight. Perhaps instead of appreciating the smaller figure they become insecure and fear they are going to lose their mates to someone else. Weight lose can cure many physical ailments, but it can cause insecurity in relationships. It is always important to make a mate feel secure by letting them know every day that we value them.

First, heterosexual male here so nope, no issues so far  LOL

But second, to take a different angle than the insecurity option, but not really knowing anyone's situation, there's the possibility your man has some body issues of his own.  *****ally know what's going on in his head.  With you making changes this may be a cause for him to dwell on his own issues.

Remember, if this is the case, it could very well have nothing to do with how you or others see him, but instead about how he thinks of himself or how he thinks others see him, regardless of accuracy.

A possible complicating factor is that he could be seeing you making changed but be somehow constrained from making changes he might wish for.

Anyone, just remember, this is all hypothetical and conjecture.  I would not act on anything unless you know more about what's feeding it.

 

 

 

He likes 'em big and round and juicy! At least you know he cannot lie!

Maybe it's not really all about the weight loss. Weight loss, weight gain or other changes tend to uncover other issues in relationships. Makes things unsettled and shifts focus onto issues that were just under the surface before.

he did not want me to have surgery. he does like them big. but since i've started losing weight, he's been a d*ck and can't look at me. 

Sounds like insecurity to me.  That can be natural to a point but can hurt any relationship in the long run.  If you haven't already, try to let him know that your relationship is strong & want it to remain strong.  Maybe talk about some things, ask him if he is ok with your changing body.  He shouldn't be pissed, he should be happy your life is changing for the better.

My husband is thrilled and very supportive. I know it would be hard on me if he felt differently about this. Maybe a counselor would help. Good luck.