Need a medical excuse! I have surgery scheduled soon! in the

Vail
on 12/17/18 5:54 pm
VSG on 01/02/19

I have surgery scheduled around the corner and due to the needed time off at work...I am a immensely private person, what surgery can o state (white lie) that I am having instead of stating VSG? Anyone have any ideas?

Cathy H.
on 12/17/18 6:21 pm
VSG on 10/31/16

Simply stating you are having surgery should be enough. Why do you have to specify what type of surgery? If they make you (and I don't know they can do that), I'd just say abdominal surgery. They don't need to know any more than that.

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allbygrace
on 12/17/18 8:15 pm
VSG on 12/08/14

For the nosy people who insist on knowing..... maybe just say, "female problems"? :)

califsleevin
on 12/17/18 8:19 pm - CA
On December 18, 2018 at 4:15 AM Pacific Time, allbygrace wrote:

For the nosy people who insist on knowing..... maybe just say, "female problems"? :)

That's a good way of cutting down on the questions - especially from the men folk!

If you want something specific, go with gallbladder - they might actually take it out at the same time. Or fixing a hiatal hernia - quite common amongst the obese, and often corrected along with WLS, so may actually be semi-true.

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Vail
on 12/17/18 9:40 pm
VSG on 01/02/19

Thank you! I don't like to share any personal information but I also am not a fan of fibbing even in its slightest form so this is more what I was hoping to do!

With gratitude,

V

lessopam
on 12/23/18 6:34 pm

If they must know,saying you had your gallbladdar out works..just be prepared for the stories

Vail
on 12/17/18 9:42 pm
VSG on 01/02/19

I'd definitely keep this in mind for the male population...lol! I'm sure it will be more than enough information

Liz WantsHealthForAll
on 12/18/18 4:55 am - Cape Cod, MA
VSG on 03/28/16

I only said I was having fairly minor surgery and didn't offer any other information. People assumed it was a "female" issue, since I wasn't talking about it more than that. No one was pushy enough to ask for more either.

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Gwen M.
on 12/18/18 7:04 am
VSG on 03/13/14

I recommend avoiding lies, even the white ones. Just state that you're having surgery and change the subject. "I'm having surgery. Do you think we'll have snow on the 25th?" Repeat as necessary. If someone asks, "what surgery?" you can say, "I'd rather not go into details. Do you think we'll have snow on the 25th?"

I.e., there are options between full disclosure and lying - those options lay in the realm of setting healthy boundaries. :)

However, be aware that people will gossip once you start losing weight. Think about how you'll want to address that. For me, I'd rather people have the truth as fodder for their gossip, so I told everyone that I had WLS afterward. I'd rather people know the truth than make up stupid **** or worry that I've got cancer. You might also consider what you'll say when people ask you for weight loss advice - as telling people that you've lost weight with just diet and exercise will be a lie. If you could have lost with just diet and exercise, you wouldn't have had surgery.

That all said - you have complete control over the information you share with people.

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H.A.L.A B.
on 12/18/18 8:46 am

I told people that I had abdominal surgery.

My friends and family new what type, but sometimes business contacts would ask questions (I was going to be off for 4-6 weeks) . If some were "brave" and asked more questions - I told them that they need to fix my insides. Any more questions after that I was considering rude and would just change a subject.

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