CuriousLady2020’s Posts

CuriousLady2020
on 9/30/20 12:30 pm
Topic: RE: Daughter's surgery went well, husband is acting weird

ladygodiva1228, sorry, I haven't been on my computer for a few days, got an eye infection and had to back off it. It sounds like you and your husband have things figured out on supporting each other, nice to hear and I am thankful you shared this information. I have always thought communication is the key as well, so I'll have to encourage my daughter to be perfectly honest and clear when she communicates with him, and he in return.

Sorry to hear about your hubby's back but glad he got inspired to lose weight and get off some meds, good for him! I'm sure with you supporting him, he was feeling good about his progress.

Thank you!

CuriousLady2020
on 9/23/20 10:24 am
Topic: RE: Daughter's surgery went well, husband is acting weird

Oh, I hadn't even thought of that. He is overweight, and maybe he is thinking that. Their date nights revolve around eating out at nicer restaurants, so you have raised a very interesting point, thank you. Wow, there is a lot to think about! How do you all get so smart! Thank you, ladygodiva1228! Wise words!

In answer to her talking to him about it, I think she shared it with me first to see if I noticed anything weird and yes, it's going on for sure. I want to be understanding of it all so I don't judge him, it may not be his fault. I'm going to suggest she have a nice long talk with him so they're discussing what might come up before it becomes them fighting about it.

CuriousLady2020
on 9/23/20 10:13 am
Topic: RE: Daughter's surgery went well, husband is acting weird

White Dove, it's strange to think that my son in law may be thinking she will be attractive to someone else, but then we don't understand the psychology of others, so I'll just get the book and ask her to consider reading it, and to join this website and find some friends on this website. I found the second edition of the book online for about $10.

I know she had a psychological evaluation prior to surgery, but it doesn't seem like there are enough warnings as to the great changes in the relationship that can occur. Theirs might not be major yet, but if they don't communicate clearly and honestly, I can tell it could get to that point, and with two children in the mix.

This is good insight for me, don't forget to communicate, even without surgery!

CuriousLady2020
on 9/22/20 4:05 pm
Topic: RE: Daughter's surgery went well, husband is acting weird

Thanks, White Dove. It is hard to watch but I care about them both so I will stay out of the middle, I want my "mom" relationship with her hubby to continue being a good one and she and I get along just great. I may suggest she read the book first, not sure.

CuriousLady2020
on 9/21/20 2:26 pm
Topic: RE: Daughter's surgery went well, husband is acting weird

Thank you for the book reference. I can't say to much since it's their problem together, but she did confide in me so I want to help even if it's in support and suggesting a book. I love him too, he's a good guy, just seems thrown off track somehow.

Counseling could be an option, we'll see what she says about it first then she can go from there. He's never been a great communicator but we'll see what they come up with together.

CuriousLady2020
on 9/18/20 1:54 pm
Topic: RE: Daughter's surgery went well, husband is acting weird

Hello everyone,

I have not posted on here recently since I was waiting on my daughter's surgery process. Well, she had the surgery at the beginning of last month, and she's doing well. I appreciate the advice I got on this site on how best to support her.

Now there is another problem that I can't do much about, but I'm hoping to understand it. Her husband is acting oddly since she has started to act more active and exercising. She said he speaks to her less and acts kind of like she's on her own at home. He used to help with lite housework, but has stopped all that and seems to avoid being in the same room except for dinner and sleeping. Is this normal for a spouse to start behaving like this?

CuriousLady2020
on 5/29/20 10:57 am
Topic: RE: Hospital travel bag, how much do you take? Hot items that helped a lot?

TheWombat, good reminder about a robe. Those hospital gowns are less than helpful at covering, so a light robe would be smart, thanks.

CuriousLady2020
on 5/29/20 10:55 am
Topic: RE: Hospital travel bag, how much do you take? Hot items that helped a lot?

White Dove, thank you. Just getting an idea since I'm a supporter. It looks like you really don't stay long, so no need for anything frilly, right?

CuriousLady2020
on 5/28/20 3:39 pm
Topic: RE: 9 years after vsg having problems- update! Its cancer.

Hello jbskaggs,

I am a support person for someone going through the surgery process soon, but read your post and had to say I'm praying for the best outcome for you. Just stopping by to wish you the best.

CuriousLady2020
on 5/28/20 3:23 pm
Topic: RE: Hospital travel bag, how much do you take? Hot items that helped a lot?

Hi everyone,

I'm supporting my daughter in this process and I'm wondering what you took to the hospital in your bag and what was the most helpful item you took?

Thanks!

CuriousLady2020
on 4/28/20 9:59 am
Topic: RE: Menu suggestions for Mom supporting Daughter when visiting

White Dove, I myself can rarely eat meat that is reheated in the microwave unless it's done at a low temp and is actually reheated and not cooked again, so I am understanding how something zapped in there could be too dry for her to eat, it makes sense.

CuriousLady2020
on 4/24/20 9:17 am
Topic: RE: Menu suggestions for Mom supporting Daughter when visiting

I have to say, I've never tried McCormick Au Jus mix, so I will now! I have two great roasts I need to prepare. Thanks!

CuriousLady2020
on 4/24/20 9:15 am
Topic: RE: Menu suggestions for Mom supporting Daughter when visiting

TheWombat, that's a great reminder, to not encourage having another serving. I used to be guilty of that when we had large family/friends bbq's, but not so much anymore since our parties are less and the kids are grown. Now I do exactly what your friend did, I place the food out and they can take what they can. I'm glad you mentioned it though, as I wouldn't want to fall back to that once she's had surgery, or even before.

Try to have a great weekend!

CuriousLady2020
on 4/17/20 3:45 pm
Topic: RE: Menu suggestions for Mom supporting Daughter when visiting

White Dove,

Wow, 13 years! You must have a trunk full of tried and true recipes! I happen to have an InstaPot, so this could be a good way to go for myself as well, cutting out a lot of carbs. They are trouble for me, since I have always liked rice, potato, and pasta dishes.

Thanks so much, I'm grateful for this community!

CuriousLady2020
on 4/17/20 3:37 pm
Topic: RE: Menu suggestions for Mom supporting Daughter when visiting

OnlineAnnie,

Thank you for offering the info, every bit I learn is helpful, and I'm finding I need to let her guide me, not the other way around! This is a big decision for her, but the point is for her to be healthier for life, so I'm behind it.

CuriousLady2020
on 4/16/20 2:11 pm
Topic: RE: Menu suggestions for Mom supporting Daughter when visiting

hollykim, Thank you for this guidance, it's very valuable to me. I'm not a pushy person at all, so will let her know I support her all the way, but need her advice on what I can stock and prepare along the way.

CuriousLady2020
on 4/16/20 2:07 pm
Topic: RE: Menu suggestions for Mom supporting Daughter when visiting

Thanks, jenorama! I think I'll continue researching and know that she will have to let me know what she's tolerating at the time. It's not quite time yet...with this crisis going on.

CuriousLady2020
on 4/14/20 10:11 am
Topic: RE: Menu suggestions for Mom supporting Daughter when visiting

Hello everyone,

I have been under the weather for a bit with health issues of my own, but my daughter is starting through this process and I want to be able to be prepared since they visit a lot (hopefully in the future when we can) for dinners. Is there a place I can get menu information from that is vsg friendly so I can lean that way to support her both before and after surgery when she can eat solid food?

Thank you and be safe!

CuriousLady2020
on 2/19/20 2:52 pm
Topic: RE: Gas/discomfort

Thank you very much, Sparlekitty. I'll order it and start reading right away. This is the best place I've ever found to get information from a number of people, very grateful. What a great community!

CuriousLady2020
on 2/19/20 1:31 pm
Topic: RE: Gas/discomfort

Hello..I'm trying to learn as much as I can about surgeries prior to my daughter deciding on her surgery type so I can support her. Does the gas after surgery occur with all surgery types, or is is tied just to VSG? Anything people can help me learn is appreciated. I'm taking notes!

Jojobby08, it looks like you're getting some good advice! Hope you feel better!

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